Monday, November 30, 2015

She Came Crying and Pleading for Forgiveness!

Dear Amara...
You have been a source of inspiration
to people's lives on the area of relationship broken
heart are healed by your wise advice. I need your advice
ma.
Have been dating a girl almost a year now and
there was nothing like sexual intercourse between us
though when the urge came she denied me of it.
Just recently not even a month a guy she met became
her friend had sex wit her.. I never knew until when
she came to me crying and pleading for forgiveness telling me that what she denied me of,she slept with a guy she
don't how it happened that I should forgive her,
that am the one she loves with her life that was why she told me everything that occurred.
If she was happy with what she did, that I wouldn't know. Please ma I need your advice and that of fans on what to do. Thank you.


For all the good intentions we may have, there are moments when we may experience some trips and falls but that doesn't necessarily mean that we have given up on our convictions. 
Yes she has betrayed the trust and confidence you had in her but forgiving her isn't optional because we cannot love if we can't forgive and no matter what anyone may have done to to hurt or betray the trust you gave to her, forgiveness is the only virtue that helps us appreciate the weaknesses and shortcomings of humanity. 
But whether you still want to continue with the relationship is entirely up to you. 
I want to believe that you knew what you wanted in a relationship and in a lady and that you found them in her before you approached her and expressed your intentions to her. 
Behind her body is her heart, her soul and her spirit that desires to please you, be sincere to you and support you in all your endeavours. 
That she denied you sex doesn't mean that she hated you but she may have done that to help you not to get her pregnant before you are prepared for the responsibility that comes with having an erection without enough resources. 
Before you make your decision, I would suggest that you meet with her and discuss about what happened and the future of the relationship. 
If you are not convinced with growing the relationship with her, then you may kindly let her know and bid her goodbye but if you love her beyond her weaknesses, then you may then discuss ways to enhance the communication skills and virtues that will strengthen your relationship and support each other in times of weaknesses. 
If God loved us so much that he forgave us after we betrayed, frustrated, mocked, abused, rejected and condemned him and he still chose the wicked ones and gave them the privilege to live and experience his love on earth, then it is possible for you to forgive her and accept her if she has genuinely repented of her shortcomings and have decided to grow in love with you. 
Entrust everything to God in prayers and seek for divine wisdom and grace to make the decision that will not destroy your vision and destiny in life. 

5 comments:

  1. "If God loved us so much that he forgave us after we betrayed, frustrated, mocked, abused, rejected and condemned him and he still chose the wicked ones and gave them the privilege to live and experience his love on earth, then it is possible for you to forgive her and accept her if she has genuinely repented of her shortcomings and have decided to grow in love with you. "

    Lines like this are always used when it has to do with a woman cheating on her man but will never be used when it has to do with a man cheating on his woman. When the man is at the receiving end, "we" will remember the Bible verse that says "Judge not".

    Smh** Really a pity!!!

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  2. Dear poster...
    That she could open up to you in the first place is a positive sign you should put into consideration...Some girls will even swear before you that they're virgins even after sleeping with you severally..
    Now...i wouldn't just urge you to forgive her and continue your relationship with her like so many suggested...It is easier said than done..
    It would take the extraordinary grace of God for things to remain the same...a lot will likely change..
    Now bro...this is my advice to you..
    You know yourself and you know what this means to you...if this act is one that you'll never forget and you'll likely hold onto for future reference and if your passion for her has hit a new low, I'll advice you forgive her and call it quits...Let her go...Don't plunge into a relationship without your heart..
    But if otherwise, continue with her..
    It's all about you and what you can tolerate bro..don't be compelled to stick with her if your heart is far away...To me...that's unforgivness...you must not remain in the relationship to show that you've forgiven her...it's a wrong notion...The most important thing is that you hold no grudge against her whether you remain with her or not...so search your heart...you'll know what to do

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  3. You've a choice to sleep and jumped only if you want to pay back what she did to you also if you really not your feelings for her don't help to care about her please let her goes whatever she wants.She came to you because that man thrown her away. We never know maybe that failure can turn her being a right lady what are you looking for.

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  4. Bros....Bros,I thought you said both of you are just 'dating'?
    That means she is not your fiancee?
    And,you are not her fiance?
    That means she DOES NOT owe you?
    And,you DO NOT owe her?
    So,why are you angry?
    That she did not give it to you before giving the other guy?
    Or, that you thought she is a 'virtuous lady' only for your hopes to be dashed courtesy of her confession?
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    Disclaimer: This is not an endorsement for what she did,but the truth is: IF SHE IS NOT YOUR FIANCEE, SHE DOES NOT OWE YOU!

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  5. Forget her if you are still not ready to fuck her because that's what she needs. If you take her back and you don't service her same thing will happen. So if you are ready to screw her go ahead or else you will just be the good patient boyfriend while others will be banging her steady.

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