Good evening ma,I need your advice and that of your fans.
I met a lady on May 2014 and I love her so much so I did not take time, I paid her bride price and our wedding was supposed to be on the 31st December 2015 but I stopped the wedding because I just found out that she was HIV positive.
We didn't do the lab test at first time we met because I have done a lab test before and I am AA and the Doctor said that I can marry anybody and she showed me the lab test she did before and she was AA too. So on the 12th of December I was looking for something in her bag and I saw some drugs, I asked her what the drug was, she said she doesn't know that it was her friend that gave it to her.
I later saw the card which they gave to her in the hospital where she collected the drug and it bears her name and she was still saying it was not her drugs so I took her for lab test and the test confirmed that she was positive. That was when she told me the truth that she has been taking treatment since 2012, that the Doctor said if she is taking her her drugs regularly that nobody is going to contract it that was why she did not tell me before now and I have done my own lab test like three times now and I am negative, now she is pregnant for me what do I do please advice me.
No matter her excuses and reasons for not telling you about her HIV status, it is very very wrong, selfish and wicked of her to hide such a vital information about her sexuality from you and there is no need for her to defend herself for such a callous act.
That your genotype is AA doesn't mean that you can marry any girl without checking her HIV status. That was where you missed it but then again the deed has been done and all you can do now is test yourself six months from your last lab test so that you can ascertain whether you have contracted the virus.
Since she is already pregnant for you, kindly encourage her to register for antenatal care so that she can get special assistance and protect your baby from contracting the virus in the womb.
Support her and stand by her during the pregnancy so that she doesn't break down as a result of this revelation. When she has safely put to bed, then you can discuss the future of the relationship with her and decide whether to continue with her or take her to her family and collect the dowry you paid on her.
Please make sure that you use condom whenever you want to have sex with her and always encourage her to take her drugs according to Doctor's prescription.
Nobody can tell you whether to continue with her or not but like I said earlier, support her and assist her in anyway you can. HIV cannot be transmitted through hugging and kissing, it cannot be transferred through eating and living in one room and it cannot be transferred through sharing of plates and cup and all that. Avoid any sharp objects and avoid sexual intimacy without protection.
I Pray for her for safe delivery with no complications.
I don't pity the girl at all...
ReplyDeleteI just pity that poor child...
Oga...run a test after 6 months to be sure of your status..you're still in your window period bro..
Also...strive to ensure that that child is born negative..
Recent studies have shown that a positive mother can bear a negative child if she strictly adheres to certain safety rules..
So...make enquiries, get her registered, and convince her to adhere to certain instructions to save the status of that child..
Continuing with that marriage is your choice now that everything has been made clear and you know the type of woman you're taking in..
Should you wish not to continue,...seek legal advice on the care and custody of that child and do the necessary...
Be strong..
I support the first write - up from 'love ambassador', that's exactly what I can advise. More over such person that can deceive a life partner to that extent is not trust worthy & any relationship built with lies is bound to collapse one day, b/c one of the main pillars of marriage is "TRUST".
ReplyDeleteI support the first write - up from 'love ambassador', that's exactly what I can advise. More over such person that can deceive a life partner to that extent is not trust worthy & any relationship built with lies is bound to collapse one day, b/c one of the main pillars of marriage is "TRUST".
ReplyDeleteThis looks like a movie to me. God help us all.
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