Sunday, February 21, 2016

African Marriages in America: Problems and Solutions

Nze Uche Ezechukwu asked a question on his wall regarding Nigerian men who murder their wives in America.
It can only get worse. With what I see here among African husbands and their wives? It can only get worse.
Now, let me tell you what the problem is
1. An African man living abroad is looking for a wife, the first thing he does is tell his people to get him a nurse. If he fails to get a nurse, he tells the lady that she has to get into the nursing field once she gets to the USA, Canada, or UK. And so the woman gets in, fees possibly paid by the lazy boss who hopes to have a very efficient ATM later. Upon graduation, the bobo transfers every of his responsibility to the ATM, giving up his place as father and husband. The woman works like a donkey while the man now sits in front of TV or video game.
You gave up your place. You turned her to a man; sir, don't expect to have a wife in your home. You can't eat your cake and have it.
2. And you, African woman, a man asked for your hand in marriage and the first thing he wants to know is if you are a nurse or ready to study nursing. You shamelessly accepted the marriage. Is that love? You were not even given the right to choose your career, at your age, a fellow human chose your career. I admire nurses who are in it because from childhood, that's what they want to become. But when I see that you have no passion in you and you are telling me that you are a nurse, I instantly place you where I place your likes. Your c
You have to live with the consequences of your choice. You can't eat your cake and have it.
3. You are an African woman who wants to be more westernized than westerners. You now feel too big to cook and even when you cook the thing you call food, all he gets is "hi, your food is in the microwave". You feel he has to be forced, not begged and pampered to do laundry and help clean up. You do all these because you are looking at irresponsible Americans and not those with good upbringing. Look at those from responsible homes and you would get to understand that there is a place for the man in every home. You would get to see that white or black, young or old, every man has that male ego in him and it takes wisdom to get him to do things without struggle.
4. You may need to change your friends. Those your friends who party with you every weekend without their husbands. You work all week, your children don't see you and weekend when you should face your home, you are out there partying and drinking and doing all sorts of rubbish with your friends. And I don't know when Igbo women started going crazy for all these asoebi nonsense. Woman, sit your butt at home and run your home.
Change your friends. Change those women who are nothing but miserable comforters, whose counsel is anti-God/nature.
Sir, you have to stop being lazy, you are not in America to hang out with friends while the woman feeds and provides shelter. It is your duty to feed, clothe, and provide shelter. She can only assist, it's not her duty. If you make her a man, don't expect to have a wife.
Above all, let us return to the Lord and He will return to us.
May God bless men like my husband who is holding on to our values in a foreign land. 


  1. While I agree with your opinion, there is no excuse for killing your wife. It takes a serious mental disorder for one to think he'll solve his problem by killing another.
    Like you said, any girl agreeing to marry oyibo based husband she hasn't met should be ready for any fool she meets.

  2. Yes oooo...cos stress can even make them do what they re not supposed to do. My pple we re visitors in that land,lets

    remember where we came from and do the needful

  3. Yes oooo...cos stress can even make them do what they re not supposed to do. My pple we re visitors in that land,lets

    remember where we came from and do the needful

  4. Hello!

    I am Elizabeth, i want to thank '''' for the very great spell he caste on my husband that makes him to come back to me immediately. We have been married for 9 years and we were blessed with three kids, my husband left us unjust-fully and was lost in a beauty of a woman, a woman who can't even withstand me and was staying with her, and left me and the kids all alone in the house and never care for us. each time I called him, he always insult and used me down on
    phone, until i met a friend of mine who introduce me to ( and he assured me that my husband will be back
    to me within three days really after that given time I heard someone knocking at my door and find out it was my husband, pleading and dropping out tears begging for forgiveness, I accepted and we are now one, now i will advice everyone who are in this condition to contact him for your own solution at : ..... he will
    help you and bring your sorrowful life to happiness



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