Tuesday, March 29, 2016

Nobody Appreciates my Sacrifice!

Good day aunty Amara, I've been married for five years now with two boys. My sister-in-law hates me, my mother-in-law died six months ago. Before her death, I took care of her, I took her to different hospitals even brought her to my house when I was three months pregnant because she later had stroke. She was living with me till my ninth month, my husband now told them to relocate her.
That was when my problem started, she started gossiping that I sent her mom out of my house. After one month in her house, she couldn't take care her and they dumped her in one prayer house, and she later died. Then my baby was three months, they left everything to me to the extent sometimes I would not breastfeed my baby for hours, thank God the burial was successful.
This woman called me, instead of thanking me for all I did, she said they were yet to have a good daughter-in-law in their house. I wept bitterly, lest I forget, she is the first daughter and the eldest. My problem now is that they travelled home to fix the memorial service and I don't want to participate or even travel home. Since after all the suffering no body will appreciate me.

Bless those who persecute you [who are cruel in their attitude toward you]; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice [sharing others' joy], and weep with those who weep [sharing others' grief]. Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty (snobbish, high-minded, exclusive), but readily adjust yourself to [people, things] and give yourselves to humble tasks. Never overestimate yourself or be wise in your own conceits. [Prov. 3:7.] Repay no one evil for evil, but take thought for what is honest and proper and noble [aiming to be above reproach] in the sight of everyone. [Prov. 20:22.] If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for [God's] wrath; for it is written, Vengeance is Mine, I will repay (requite), says the Lord. [Deut. 32:35.] But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals upon his head. [Prov. 25:21, 22.] Do not let yourself be overcome by evil, but overcome (master) evil with good.
Romans 12:14-21 AMP

Your sister-in-law may try to hurt you but you are clearly above her when you decide to ignore her opinions and hold onto God's blessings upon your life. 
She was expecting a better in-law while God has established you as the in-law that she must acknowledge. She was busy gossiping about you because your life is productive and you have so many testimonies for her to share with her jobless crew. 
Sometimes, the things that make us feel worried are actually God's way of pushing our enemies to work in our favour. What you owe everyone else in your new family is courtesy and respect, it doesn't matter what they said about you or how they feel when they see you. What matters is that you do anything God has laid in your heart to do, whether anyone is comfortable with it or not shouldn't be your concern. 
The scriptures has clearly admonished you on what you need to do, nothing else is relevant.
Don't let anyone make you not to do good or destroy your good heart. God will reward you for your love and sacrifices even when nobody else acknowledges your efforts.


  1. My dear, just ignore them and do them all "I chop pass not "style.

  2. My dear, just ignore them and do them all "I chop pass not "style.


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