Monday, April 11, 2016

I Feel Lonely and Unloved!

Hello aunty Amara.. I have a serious problem with my relationship and it's bothering me so much.
I am a 24 years old lady doing my youth service and been dating a 33 years old guy for three years now.
The problem is that he has no job but he is a graduate of mechanical engineering with a second class upper degree.
We are currently in a distant relationship and I am getting tired of it.(we were not distant before but he was searching for a job so he relocated)
I don't really know what to do.. I haven't seen him for the past five months and I feel I am single although we talk everyday
The job is really an issue here. He is very nice and supportive to me
Please aunty what should I do because I am getting fed up,
I no longer feel the love and attraction again..
Thanks in anticipation for your reply

Nothing good comes without a prize, your partner understands how much you need him by your side which was why he made sure that he communicates with you at all times.
Because he knew that there was a need for him to have a means of livelihood no matter how little he earns so that he can meet your needs and his needs too, this also made him to sacrifice his comfort zone for your happiness.
He's not happy that you are all alone but what would he do? Be lazy and watch another man woo you with what he doesn't have?
You need to be considerate here and encourage him in his quest for self discovery and independence. As long as he doesn't cheat on you and he hasn't given you any reason to doubt his love, please encourage him and cheer him up. Coming to stay with you isn't the challenge but meeting up with the demands of life is what has made him to strive harder to make a living and a difference in his endeavours.
You need to support him with ideas and also venture into businesses that will fetch some income for your needs so that when you have concluded your programme, you will have something to fall back on and plan with.
Pray for him and when there's some time for him to visit, suggest that both of you meet and encourage one another as both of you strive for excellence. With patience, understanding, wisdom and commitment to your vision, I'm hopeful that God will bless your relationship and grant the very desires of your heart.

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