Monday, May 9, 2016

Don't Spiritualise Sex in Marriage!

Once you are legally and traditionally married to your partner, sexual intimacy becomes sexual intimacy and whatsoever you decides to do with your partner in your marriage is explicitly and uniquely accepted by God. 
There's no scriptures in the Bible that said that as couples you shouldn't enjoy sex, there's also no place in the Bible where it was stated that the only accepted sexual position is missionary position. 
Also there's no place in the Bible where God said that it's a taboo to express yourself and your sexual desire or a taboo for you to give your wife a head or give your husband a blow job. 
Bible clearly stated that when Adam met with Eve his wife and he proclaimed her to be his wife, "he knew her". The process of knowing her was unique to Adam and Eve and the same applies to every married couples. If you choose to know her in the kitchen, bathroom, parlour or the balcony, using any positions that both of you wishes to adopt, as long as it's safe, healthy and lovely for both of you, please explore everything(excluding anal sex). 

Bible also stated that 'they were naked and not ashamed of each other'. Please wives in particular, I have no idea why you are shy to say honey, hit me hard, baby suck me more, daddy, your rod is the best, I love it when you fondle my breast like this and give it to me like that. I have no idea why you are pretending when you can be wild and express yourself as you desire. 
Some women has believed so many heresy and have reduced sex to a boring and ridiculous activity in their marriage and they will still be the one that will come and complain of seeing condoms everywhere. 
That a "pastor or prophet or man of God" made an opinion about sex doesn't mean that it's biblical or that it is right. Your sexual intimacy is solely for you and your husband and no other opinions should count in your home. 
Some men feel that because a lady is born again, she doesn't crave for sexual intimacy. That is a lie from the pit of hell, in fact born again sisters desire more sexual intimacy from their husbands than you can imagine. They are born again because they kept their body for you as their own way of celebrating you, so thinking because she's born again that she shouldn't enjoy sexual intimacy as many times as she desires it is simply saying that you have no understanding of what marriage entails. 
Stop judging your partner by her virginity status, whether you married her a virgin or not, what matters most is that you are married and all you owe her is quality sexual intimacy and not to judge her, and make her feel less of a human. Just as a man craves for sex, that's how a woman does and nobody should make himself feel superior to another. 
Don't be too lousy and lazy in bed, get up, and give your heart to making your sexual intimacy as explosive as possible. Sweat it off, burn it off, forget about your worries and focus on digging deep into the soul of your partner. Make each sexual encounter a memorable occasion and let your partner feel your impact in his or her life. 
Never you use any sexual favour that you gave to your partner to mock him or insult her. Whatever happened during sex happened during sex and once both of you are done and have enjoyed yourself enough, talk about it and let it be. 
If both of you have any misunderstanding, tackle it but never you refer to the fact that you gave him a blow job or you made love to her for ten hours. It's immature and not necessary at all. 
One of the most powerful tools that enhances your sexual fulfilment in your marriage is communication. Talk about sex with your husband, express your fantasies with your wife, let her know how you crave for it and let him know those mumu buttons that once he presses them, the whole world will explode. 

As you caress her and roam around her body, let her know how much you cherish her, how beautiful and lovely her body is, don't just keep quiet as though you are scared of her or scared of opening up to her. Madam, do not always expect him to know everything, guide him, whisper to him, kiss him, fondle him, remind him why no other man can come close to you. His egg plants and his penis are not afraid of your touch, in fact they're overjoyed and desiring your gentle touch, so why not take your time and give his penis a patent mark of love and appreciation. 
As his wife, prepare beautiful meal and dress in a seductive and sensual manner, if you are not living with anyone, you can be in the kitchen with your panties and sexy singlets so that he can see your nipples. Even when your breast has fallen, your nipples is still very powerful and attractive and can make a man to forget the football club playing a match and play with your nipples. 
As a man, let her have a view of your sexy legs and your egg plant, wear a clean boxers that will make her wonder how many kolanuts you ate. 
Be unique, be clean and be you, be selfless and make your sex life exclusively your patent. Find every avenue to make your sexual intimacy an experience to look up to and focus on giving your partner the kind of pleasure that can only come from your loving heart. 
As long as you are married, you are already righteous, and Holy so give your partner sex in a way that will make God to bless you with twins as your children. 
Quality sexual intimacy with your partner cannot be bought with gift, it cannot be replaced with money so stop giving so may excuses and make sure your partner is sexually satisfied in your marriage.


  1. Well said, dear.
    This spirituality against see is more rampant among born again.
    Partners should learn to keep there Bible and such scriptural assumption beside love making.

  2. Wait oo, I need orientation "wear a clean boxers that will make her wonder how many kolanuts you ate." What does eating kolanut has to do with anything here??


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