Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Don’t Be Stagnant; Better Yourself

I’ve had many wives and husbands complain to me about their spouse’s change of attitude because of change in social status either as a result of promotion at work or better business opportunity.

Inasmuch as I don’t support that attitude toward ones spouse; inasmuch as I strongly feel that we should stand by our spouses and treat them right at all times, I also believe that the spouse at the receiving should help himself or herself.
What do I mean? Yes, you started life from the scratch with him or her, but that’s not a good-enough reason to remain stagnant. You see your spouse getting more education; you see your spouse getting trainings on etiquette; you see your spouse self-educating himself or herself via the internet and instead of you thinking of better ways to improve, you waste your time and bandwidth on gossip with friends that have no vision for their lives. You waste your time on movies when you should be doing more meaningful things.

Your spouse loves you and appreciates everything you have helped him/her to get through in life. But sir/ma’am, you need to help your spouse to help you. Step up and learn how to put colors together, the best dress for your body type,  and what hairstyle goes with what. Learn how to walk and carry yourself in public. Learn your dining etiquette. Don’t tell me it’s too much of a waste of time; you need it for that new status. Don’t tell me you should be accepted by your spouse just the way you are; it’s difficult and if you love and care about his or her career, you would step up.

I have heard Pastor’s wives complain about  their husband giving their place in ministry to someone else. If you cannot do those things efficiently, I’m sorry madam, but the ministry needs someone more efficient to handle it. Maybe no one has told you this hard truth.

I was once with a man who would jump lines and fight for food at events. By God’s Grace, I cook real good and he bragged about my expertise in the kitchen before Friends. When he finally gets the food, he eats like it’s running away.  People would be smiling at me in disgust while he did all that. He knew no shame. The shame became unbearable that I had to leave him at  an event to go back to the hotel room. The worst part of the whole thing is that he wasn’t going to listen to you when you have to talk about it at home.
Ladies and gentlemen, if the food doesn’t get to you, please be calm and enjoy yourself. Don’t go fighting for it.

Here is the conclusion of the matter: When you see your spouse developing him/herself, don’t fold your hands, please do same for yourself.

If you need training on corporate and social etiquette, contact
Amara Blessing Nwosu
Certified International Protocol and Corporate Etiquette Consultant (Protocol School of Washington)
Email: amara@amaraofficial.com
Phone: +1 (770) 800-6764

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