How Do I Cope with a Husband who Treats me as a Stranger in His Life?

How best can I manage a husband that believes that whatever he has is for him and his family excluding me and our kids. His brother is his next of kin(he's married with kids) while I come from no where.

How do I Prevent my Sister-in-law from Destroying my Marriage?

Aunty Amara

Good morning ma. Please I want to know what you and my fellow fans think.

My husband’s elder sister will not let us have peace, and the worst is that this woman is married and will not go to her husband's house.

She lives in my house, she does not know how her husband survives,

How Much Should A Lady Contribute to Her Wedding Preparations?

Good evening ma. I trust you're good as always. Please ma, I want to know, to what extent should a lady help her man or contribute to their wedding preparations?

Should I Abandon my Academics and Join my Husband?

Good morning Aunty, please help, I am confused on what to do. 

I am to choose between going to meet my hubby because he is not in Nigeria and continuing my education here.

I got married some months back, and my hubby left a month and some days after the wedding.

One Year Later, I Haven't Set my Eyes on Hubby!

Good morning ma, I was suppose to go meet my fiancee in the country were he stays, so when he told the mum about his plans she and his family insisted he paid my bride price, even if it's just to put money on my head, their reason is that they know their son has a girlfriend over there that they don't want me having issues, so I agreed cos I felt they were behind me, before the date was fixed.

I Hate my Husband Now!

Good morning ma, God bless your good works. Ma, I am sad, heartbroken and I hate my husband now..

I am 28 years old and five years in marriage.. He is a senior banking officer, when I had my daughter, he started complaining of no money, I kept wondering but told myself he could be saving. We barely ate good food, his mum died and he spent nothing less than a million Naira.

Am I Possessed by Spirit Husband?

Good morning ma.... Please help me post this, please what are one meant to experience in the first five to ten years of marriage... Because my own seems I have experienced more than people who are almost ten years in this journey....
On Saturday I got a call from my mother telling me how she went to a church and a pastor was telling her how I have marine spirit abiii spirit husband on hearing that I shunned her off never to tell me any of that again, she said she was going to call my husband to tell him that I should look for church and do deliverance.

My Dad Insists I Return to my Husband!

Greetings to you ma!
Please make out time to read my story.

I'm 28. I got married in 2015 to a man I loved. I moved in with him after our traditional marriage. He was living in their family house(which I objected to) but he promised to look for rented accomodation after our wedding. That was how I was tricked into living with him and his parents.

Should I Leave my Husband?

Aunty, good day. My husband just told me yesterday that he had a baby boy outside and he's 3 years. He said he didn't know before.

What can I do, am confused?

How Do I Know if a Suitor is my Husband?

Good evening maam, may God reward you for all your good counsels. I had this particular guy that proposed to me, we were going on well. After sometime, he wanted me to visit him which I refused cos I knew what it would eventually lead to and he had been talking about sex and the likes and I never wanted such to occur so I bluntly refused.

I Live in Fear in my Marriage!

Good evening aunty Amara... I am married, will be two years in my marriage this November 14th and have been pregnant thrice... I lost two, and am presently on bedrest in my parents' custody.. I don't know if I made a mistake by marrying my husband because I am not enjoying my marriage at all. I've managed to keep quiet but it's eating me up..

The first pregnancy I lost was immediately after our honeymoon, this was due to too much work at home and stress at work...

I Feel Rejected and Dejected in my Seven Months Marriage!

On March 2016 I met my hubby through our primary school Whatsapp chat.... The question I asked there made him pick interest in me. He started sending me private messages, he was a perfect gentleman, he asked me of my family, where I worked and everything.

How Do I Separate My Husband from His Mistress?

Good morning Aunty, please ma I want you to advise me on what to do.

I found out my husband has been dating one girl for a very long time now and from the beginning of his

The Meaning of Marriage

Ruth 1:16-18
But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to turn back from following you. For wherever you go, I will go, and wherever you stay, I will stay. Your people shall be my people and your God my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord do thus to me, and worse, if anything but death separates you and me!” When Naomi saw that she was determined to go with her, she said no more to her.


Friends,
If you are getting married with any mindset other than this, you are bound to fail or remain unhappy in your home. It's sad seeing what this generation has made marriage to become. It's worse seeing religious leaders, all in the name of exercising faith, tell people that marriage is only "in health and riches". According to them it's a proclamation of faith. But I want to let you know today that proclamation of faith and taking of vow are two different things. That vow simply tells your spouse that come rain, come shine, you are with him or her. And don't be fooled; even Jesus told us that in this world, we shall have tribulations.


This is the mistake gospel preachers often make, telling new converts that life will become sweet because they came to Christ. The truth of the gospel is that it gets tougher when you are in Christ, but the only difference is that you have so much peace in the middle of that fire. Life is about ups and downs and so whether you say that vow or not, gloomy days will come.


A good number of people now go into marriage prepared for battle; they map out strategies to effectively carry out their plans against in-laws and spouse even before the marriage proper. My dear ladies, please run away from those friends encouraging you to be mean to your in-laws. Some go the extent of praying for their mother-in-law to be dead. As you are

Single or Married?

People now go into marriage with the mindset that it will end someday. You now hear men and women advise friends/relatives to protect and watch their back. Married couples are now encouraged to lie to each other all for material things.

Men are advised not to have the wife's name in business and financial documents. Women are told never to let their husbands name go into anything they own. They are advised to lie and possibly steal from the man for security. Some men would rather have their brother's name on their business and property instead of their wife's. What I have always seen happen to such men at death is that their labor all go in vain. The brother, instead of giving the business and money to his brother's wife and children uses it for his own wife and children. Don't think they love you; they can't love you more than your spouse and children. The love ends the very day you go down the grave.

Some will even volunteer to help her save the stolen money. The most painful part of this is seeing parents encourage their married daughters to steal from their husband. What a shame! A friend's marriage ended the very day he got to the in-laws only to find all the designer wears missing from his wardrobe. It happened that the wife who was secretly building in her father's house was also stealing his things and sending to her brother. Well, today she's back to her father's house and no money to steal again. The building is still unfinished and the same mother and siblings who encouraged her to do all that now heap daily insults on her. No money, no friend.

Some women, instead of building with their husband, go to the father's house to build in their brothers' name. I know a woman whose husband and children are miserable but she sends everything to her brothers. I know another whose husband had a bank case, he was locked up when he told his wife to sell his property and use the money to pay the bank. His property was sold only for the woman to send the money to her sister's husband who wanted to make some profits from it while the husband suffered in jail. Well, the guy somehow found his way out and that was the end of the marriage.

You bought the land in your brother's name, built in his name, and collects rent in his name. Don't worry, just wait until the day you are sent packing by the man; that's the day you will know that you don't own the property. Be wise.

I am worried. Is it really worth it? Are you really married? Are you sure yours is not a case of two good actors cohabiting? Do you know the meaning of love? What happens to children raised in such an environment where you both play the game of deceit? How do you close your eyes at night beside someone you don't trust? Why eat from a woman you don't trust?

I believe in being truly one with my spouse.
You have no reason, no good reason to lose your peace all for material things. Why tell him or her "I love you" when it's obvious that yours is just a game of deceit? Why get married hoping that it will come to an end someday? Even if it comes to an end someday, you shouldn't go into marriage with a negative mindset.

And you Mr. Husband, help your wife not to become a thief overnight. It is your duty to protect, cherish, and nurture the woman you call wife. You are a failure if you cannot nurture that woman. But madam, no material thing is worth your soul. If you are married to a selfish Aradite, please find something to do to earn money. But if you find yourself with a selfish Aradite who also won't let you work, I don't know what to say, only God will see you through.

We need to save future generations. We need to go back to God's principles of marriage. We need to stop fighting so hard and playing this game of deceit just for material things. Marriage is not a contract; marriage is a divine covenant.
Yes, you are married before the world; are you married before God?

My Husband is Acting Single On Facebook.

Good morning Aunty Amara! I was introduced to your page by a very good friend of mine and I have seen how you help people in their relationship and marriage. May God's blessing never cease from your life. Amen.
Please I want you to help me because am so confused on what to do.
I am traditionally married to my husband, and by God's grace our wedding will be by the first week of January next year. My husband is a very good man, he is caring and also the loving type. He has his own flaws but above all he is a husband material (lols).

Should I File Visa Application For My Husband Or Mum?

Good day aunty Amy. God bless you greatly ma. Please ma I have something that has been bothering me lately and your urgent advice is needed please. I'm torn between who to file for. 
Ma, my initial plan was to file for my mum to join me here in the states but something happened that make me to put it on hold for now

My Husband Insists That I Must Go Home.

Please ma, I need your help and advice. This is not my first time of writing to you, and I have been practicing the advice you gave me, not perfect anyways. The issue now is my husband travelled to Cotonou for business for two weeks. During this period I will close work and go to his shop with my sister-in-law living with us

Discovered That My Husband is Gay.

Aunty Amara Good day, may God bless you for saving marriages and relationships. I have written to you before but you didn't get to post it but I hope my post makes it to your timeline this time.

My case goes thus : I found out that my boy friend of three years and husband of three years (six years in total)

His Big And Long Penis Makes Sex Painful and Ugly To Me.

Aunty good evening, aunty please I really need your help.
Since my husband had sex with me for the first time, I have seen sex as the most painful and ugly thing. I lost my virginity on May but I'm happy it was done by my husband but since then I hated sex that I don't like thinking about it