How do I unload these Garbage in my Life?

Good evening Aunty Amara, how are you doing and how is your family? 

I will be needing advice on some cases because I don't want to go into new year with some stuffs

1. When my husband and I was dating, he would bath three to five times a day during summer, while winter is two times a day, now he bath only two times in a week.

2. He was the most gentle and calmest person I have been with, truthful, faithful and kind to everyone but now he has become an aggressive, rude liar, when given cash to do something he would not do it but use the money and when asked, he will start yelling. 

He Nearly Took my Life; I'm Terrified to go Back.

It all started in 2010 when a Pastor from The Lord's Chosen ministry came to me and said he wanted to marry me and my parent said no, but because my parent were not Chosen then, 

I was the only one that came out of Roman Catholic and joined Chosen because I was searching for God because I wanted to know more of Him.

So when this man came, he told me that he is the senior pastor in Malawi, and then I was about entering school of Nursing, and he told me not to worry that he will train me in school of Nursing in Malawi because they have the best nursing school according to him, so I believed him but I never told my parent because they were not Chosen members.

In Chosen, you only believe whatever is going on in your life, only Chosen members must know about it, and anyone who is not a Chosen is a sinner and they will go to hell. Then I hated my parents because of this church, that was why I never listened to them, and I made my passport without telling them.

This man said our traditional marriage will take place which I agreed, but on that day, only one person came which is a man of 23 years old, and my people said that traditional marriage is not done that way, and they said they wanted to see the man because the man never came, he only said there was a call for him to come down to Malawi so I believed him.

How Do I Confront Her for Cheating on Me?

Good pm our blessed and good counsellor..

It gives me great concern to share my worries with you and seek for a counsel.

I started dating a lovely friend of mine when I was 20(2008), and in my second year in University. She was yet to gain admission and was 19 then. After schooling we decided to tie nuptial knot together by planning and taking our relationship serious.

Should an Obese Wife be Blamed for Her Husband's Infidelity?

Hello ma'am,  I have gained a lot from your platform God bless you. Please I just want to clear my mind on an issue.

My husband thinks an obese wife is to blame for her husband cheating on her.

What Should I Do to Bring Her Back to Me?

Good day and may you remain blessed, I have a problem I want to share with you.

I am writing this with pain in my heart, since a week now I've not been myself, my girlfriend broke up with me and ever since then my life has changed.

I'm Losing My Marriage to Infidelity!

Good day Aunty Amara, may God bless you and your family richly. Your words and encouragement has been my inspiration, may God bless you amen.

Please I am in a marriage of six years now and ever since I married my hubby, I have never trusted him, he's been a very nice and caring husband and father to me and the kids.

What Should I Do to Keep Him?

Good afternoon ma, am a follower of your blog and I always love the advices you give to people, this is my first time of writing to you.

Am in a relationship with a wonderful man but I recently have a challenge,

Why Would She Play with my Emotions?

Hi Aunty Amara good pm. I've been following you since I was in Nigeria. I traveled to U.S. last year and I'm schooling. I've a thing to share with you and that is about my relationship.

I'm 29 years and she will be 22 this year.

Single or Married?

People now go into marriage with the mindset that it will end someday. You now hear men and women advise friends/relatives to protect and watch their back. Married couples are now encouraged to lie to each other all for material things.

Men are advised not to have the wife's name in business and financial documents. Women are told never to let their husbands name go into anything they own. They are advised to lie and possibly steal from the man for security. Some men would rather have their brother's name on their business and property instead of their wife's. What I have always seen happen to such men at death is that their labor all go in vain. The brother, instead of giving the business and money to his brother's wife and children uses it for his own wife and children. Don't think they love you; they can't love you more than your spouse and children. The love ends the very day you go down the grave.

Some will even volunteer to help her save the stolen money. The most painful part of this is seeing parents encourage their married daughters to steal from their husband. What a shame! A friend's marriage ended the very day he got to the in-laws only to find all the designer wears missing from his wardrobe. It happened that the wife who was secretly building in her father's house was also stealing his things and sending to her brother. Well, today she's back to her father's house and no money to steal again. The building is still unfinished and the same mother and siblings who encouraged her to do all that now heap daily insults on her. No money, no friend.

Some women, instead of building with their husband, go to the father's house to build in their brothers' name. I know a woman whose husband and children are miserable but she sends everything to her brothers. I know another whose husband had a bank case, he was locked up when he told his wife to sell his property and use the money to pay the bank. His property was sold only for the woman to send the money to her sister's husband who wanted to make some profits from it while the husband suffered in jail. Well, the guy somehow found his way out and that was the end of the marriage.

You bought the land in your brother's name, built in his name, and collects rent in his name. Don't worry, just wait until the day you are sent packing by the man; that's the day you will know that you don't own the property. Be wise.

I am worried. Is it really worth it? Are you really married? Are you sure yours is not a case of two good actors cohabiting? Do you know the meaning of love? What happens to children raised in such an environment where you both play the game of deceit? How do you close your eyes at night beside someone you don't trust? Why eat from a woman you don't trust?

I believe in being truly one with my spouse.
You have no reason, no good reason to lose your peace all for material things. Why tell him or her "I love you" when it's obvious that yours is just a game of deceit? Why get married hoping that it will come to an end someday? Even if it comes to an end someday, you shouldn't go into marriage with a negative mindset.

And you Mr. Husband, help your wife not to become a thief overnight. It is your duty to protect, cherish, and nurture the woman you call wife. You are a failure if you cannot nurture that woman. But madam, no material thing is worth your soul. If you are married to a selfish Aradite, please find something to do to earn money. But if you find yourself with a selfish Aradite who also won't let you work, I don't know what to say, only God will see you through.

We need to save future generations. We need to go back to God's principles of marriage. We need to stop fighting so hard and playing this game of deceit just for material things. Marriage is not a contract; marriage is a divine covenant.
Yes, you are married before the world; are you married before God?

My Husband Flirts And Sleeps With Many Girls.

Aunty Amara please help advice me on this. Am married for a year now, I stumbled  on my husband's  Facebook and I saw that he has been chatting, flirting, and slept with many girls on Facebook.  

Should I Go Into A Blood Covenant With Him?

Good morning ma, am  into a serious relationship with a guy, he truly loves me and I also love him too.... Sometimes I don't trust him, I feel he's cheating on me, although have not seen anything but he's saying that if I don't trust him

Why Should I Hold On When He's Afraid of Commitment?

Good day ma! May God bless you.  When it comes to emotions we find it really hard to tell ourselves the truth, though some people would judge me for having a baby but then I had made a vow not to abort any baby again as have done it twice. 
We dated for two years and half before we had an issue about

He Chats With Other Women On Social Media.

Good morning aunty Amara, God bless you for the good works you are doing in people's lives. I write to you with a heavy heart, I got married early this year, my husband is good and caring

He Accused Me Of Cheating On Him.

Good morning ma. God has used you to help a lot of people, I inclusive, more grease to your elbow.
There's this guy who started asking me out in 2012, I initially didn't give in because I was in a relationship, and even when I left the guy I was dating I still didn't agree till sometime in 2014. We got on well till I found out through his Facebook page that he was seeing some else.