Sunday, August 9, 2015

I Want to Impregnate My Friend's Wife

Good day Aunty Amara,

You always prove to be the best in counselling.

My closest friend from our schooling days, who is in his 9th year of childless marriage, recently confided in me that his wife is reproductive but him.
He said that experts have confirmed that no gamete can be harvest from him to even try artificial means.
He earnestly seek my help to get his wife ON.
He said that he loves this woman who stands by him this while, and believe that the only way he feels most appropriate to clear the magnitude of disgrace he subjected her to is to help her be a biological mother she ought to be, to strengthen their marital bond as well.

This man has been there for me those days, both academically, morally and most importantly in most of my financial needs, even to further my academy in the UK. He is like a father to me.

But I have tried up to this 38 years of my life to abstain completely till I tie with my companion, at the right time. For I believe that God's command on virginity as a gateway to marital bonding (Exodus  22:16-17,) is technically applicable to men as well.

So, I search for possible legal, social or moral fact(s) that possibly approve of my giving in on this, if I dare to do so, considering possibilities like;
How do I explain such past to my wife and child(ren) to be?
How will the child(ren) brought that way would feel about such incident, especially if they lack anything on that ground, like can they be denied the right to be clergy or such?
What if the child(ren) fail to replicate the good man people believe I am, how will my friend feel about it?
Will God buy such selfish excuse to thorelate my adulterous record that is hard engraved on the sand of time?
How scandalous will I appear to everyone?
Ladies are condemned for playing such third party role as a child factory to couples, what should exempt men?

He is the only child of his parent, as he told me. And explained to me how hereditary it appears on their lineage and denies him of immediate cousin to help him out, and that his maternal relatives doesn't have good moral characters to continue with him.
I tried to convince him to give the homeless a home by adoption, but he is nowhere close to buying such idea, probably for the fear of the unknown child.

I need yours and everyone's opinion on this especially the women, to know their reaction on finding such old skeleton in her fiancé or husband's cupboard?

How do I get away with my refusing intension, if you people find fault in this as I do?
Should I sacrifice this academic opportunity?

Sorry for taking your time this lengthy. Please let me know when you post it.

Thanks.

Dear Sender,
A good number of people who tried this ended up becoming enemies and losing that cherished friendship. I have also seen men do this only to end up without their own children in marriage. How are you going to handle it if this happens? You already have questions;  a simple way to know that your conscience is against it. Tell him there are sperm banks available to fertility centres, if he cant trust God enough, he should go for that instead of getting you into it.

5 comments:

  1. Dont do it. Tell him to go to synagogue church of all nation SCOAN and the yoke will be broken.

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  2. Sir please for the sake of your own family don't do it. Some how fined away to tell your friend no. Pray with him seeking Gods guidance. There are other ways to mend this problem that I don't think he has even explored. Your job as his friend is to help him through this process.

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  3. Amara,please don't believe this story. Lies are written all over it. U see this guy simply trying tell the world how righteous he is. He is a bad liar cos he couldn't cover his tracks well.

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  4. don't do it just show him u re trust worthy and a man opf intergrity

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  5. PLEASE DEAR, DONT DO IT. YOU HAVE ABSTAIN FROM IT ALL THESE WHILE WHY WOULD U SACRIFICE UR JOY DAT OF UR WIFE AND HEAVEN COS HE HELPED YOU? PLEASE, THIS IS A TEMPTATION AND ONLY GOD'S GRACE AND UR INTEGRITY CAN HELP. GOD BLESS U

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