Sunday, August 2, 2015

I'm fed up with him!

Please ma, advise me on this relationship. Am fed up i don't know what to do. We started dating in year 2008 though we had many breakups but we still came together. After our secondary school we both started working as a clerk we entered schools together, he did an ND part time and i did BSc. 
He finished earlier than me and throughout my programme he didn't support me financially saying he doesn't have. 
He is now doing his BSc part time while am through. He told me that we should get married and if anybody asked him why he didn't settle down he would say am the one that was not ready. 
Financially he cannot combine school and family things together. He do tell me that i should support him financially to get married. 
He didn't spend on me and i don't know how to ask from him. Anytime i say he was stingy he would say am I not working? 
Will this kind of man be able to take good care of me after marriage? 
Won't he be saying because am working I should be taking care of home? 
Please ma advise me, thanks ma. 
God bless you ma, more grease to your elbows. 

Dear sender,
I cannot tell if he could take good care of his home and responsibilities but one thing I can assure you of is that people do not change after wedding and you cannot change anyone in marriage. 
You only live with them and love them the way they are. 
You have to also be prepared to take up the responsibilities in a home because it takes two to build a formidable home. 
You cannot just expect that your husband will shoulder all the responsibilities especially now that the economy isn't favourable to many. 
You need to be realistic in your expectations and also equip yourself with the skills and virtues that will generate funds to support your husband in his commitment to providing all your need. 
It doesn't mean that you should consider an irresponsible man for marriage because you would be the one to pay for your decisions heavily I must add. 
When a man exhibits some form of selfishness and irresponsibility, it's time to put your feelings aside and count your fingers to be sure of your capacity and capabilities in life. 
It's totally up to you to decide who you are comfortable with and who you desire as a partner in life and love. 
Don't forget, do let God know your fears and worries and allow him to guide your heart so that you wouldn't make some terrible mistakes that may cost you so much in life. 
All the best. 


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