Monday, August 17, 2015

My Dad aborted My Baby!

Good afternoon ma, please do me the favour of reading through this. If you choose to share it. it's fine I have a challenging situation but I trust that GOD will intervene .
I am a 24 years old lady who has finished school and is working in Abuja, my boyfriend and I have wanted to get married for a long time now but my dad said no because we were from different states in Nigeria. 
We had been begging through pastors and few relatives for one year but my dad was very adamant. Now while we waited for God's intervention we had sex and I got pregnant. 
Now I couldn't tell my dad but someone else sent a message to my dad informing him about it and my dad was furious saying my boyfriend and I sent the message. 
My dad then decided to abort a child God gave to me at 12 weeks without any remorse without even my consent on the premise that I and my boyfriend conived and I got pregnant to force him to agree. It wasn't intentional for me to get pregnant but it happened. 
In the course of all these my boyfriend became rude to my dad when my dad forcefully killed the baby. I am hurt because my dad wasn't sorry about his actions and my boyfriend wanted to leave because he said he can't forgive my dad. I love him alot and I have my convictions that he is for me.
Even all these happened my dad still doesn't want to let me be... He kept saying that I should go and do my masters and come and show him my certificate before he allows me to get married. 
I no longer what to go to school for now but I know that this was a strategy to send my boyfriend away just because he is Edo.
He kept saying that my boyfriend slighted or disrespected him. I am very frustrated now but I know that God is still on His throne. 
I believe God has a purpose for my pain but what do I do now?


I know that your dad may have genuine intentions for your life and future but killing an innocent child for whatsoever reasons was simply not good enough for you and your health. 
And for you to have offered your own baby for abortion experiments didn't go down well with me for a lady who has the capacity to resist such a painful decision over her body, life and her baby. 
What if that abortion rendered your womb useless, what if your baby was the solution to the world's challenges, where else could you seek solutions for and what will become of your body should you not get pregnant when you eventually get married. 
You cannot blame your partner for being rude because the baby that was killed was his blood and strength. 
This is the best time for you to state categorically what your heart desires are to your dad. 
He cannot lay siege to your happiness and fulfilment as a lady while you wallow in pains and agony. 
You now need to use everything within your power to make him see reasons why you cannot leave your partner even if it means sacrificing your comfort. 
He should know that you are old enough to decide what you need and now is that time. 
He has offered education to distract you but you need to open up, please do not keep quiet and let anyone for any reason waste your destiny. 
When he sees the hunger, and pains in your heart, he would have a change of heart towards his decision. 
Whether he came from Edo or he was from Delta doesn't make any difference, what matters most is who he is and his vision in life. 
Please do not allow anyone to ruin your life for any reason because you are responsible for your life.

Do you think that his dad has a right to terminate the pregnancy of is daughter? 
Please do well to drop your views on the blog. 
Thank you. 

10 comments:

  1. I remember when there was war in my house bcos me and my elder sister came after uni that we wanted to marry (both husbands edo (esan). My dad flipped, people begged, my mum brought people to talk to him and beg him to see reasons. He refused giving all sorts of unreasonable excuses; the people are wicked, what do we know about the tribe? They are diabolical. We both stood our ground, there was no talking in the house... tension everywhere. Wen me, my mom and sister are in the room talking, he will be fuming and saying we are planning against him. Everything he said fell on deaf ears, eventually he found out that we were hell bent on our decison and grudgingly gave in. During intro nko, my dad's face was like a stone... no smiling. Lo and behold, now my dad and his son in laws are like besties, he even calls to check on them and is a very happy FIL. No one would imagine that once upom a time, i threatened to run away from home to be with my husband. I am married to a very wonderful man that treats me like a queen, I cant even believe my good fortune. My dear, i understand what you are passing through, your father is still seeing you like his baby, you have to prove to him that you are a woman now with her own thoughts and opinion, only then will he respect you and back off. It wont be easy but when you know what you are fighting for you will succeed. Good luck and sorry about your baby.

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    1. Deviating from the main issue . answer the question yourself are you a virgin?. Things happen ,mistakes are made.and she needs the best solution not ur irrelevant question. Mtcheww

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    2. Your on point. DAT reply up dia was a mistake tanks .and good you shared your experience. Goes a long way to explain it all

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  2. My Comment will be a little rash but I will not refrain from making it all the same. Fornication is a sin so is murder or manslaughter, 2 wrongs will never make a right. So dearie quit justifying what you have done with your father's evil. You cannot be waiting on God and working things out your own way. If you say you were waiting on God then please can you explain why you committed fornication when God expressly cautions against fornication?

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    1. Deviating from the main issue . answer the question yourself are you a virgin?. Things happen ,mistakes are made.and she needs the best solution not ur irrelevant question. Mtcheww

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  3. I don't understand what exactly you mean by he killed your baby.
    Did he force you to climb the table? Did he mix concoctions? I'm just clueless.
    I have the impression that you haven't been able to create an image of maturity for your father to see and believe.
    That's what you should work on.
    Now as auntie said, that's his first child o. He's traumatised so you have to console yourself and console him.
    Your father has no right over your body. At 12 weeks your baby enjoys legal protection. I seriously wouldn't mind suing him to shake him up then dropping the case along the way so he knows you know what you're doing and you know what you want.
    As you said yourself God is on the throne. I wish you all the best.

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  4. I don't understand what exactly you mean by he killed your baby.
    Did he force you to climb the table? Did he mix concoctions? I'm just clueless.
    I have the impression that you haven't been able to create an image of maturity for your father to see and believe.
    That's what you should work on.
    Now as auntie said, that's his first child o. He's traumatised so you have to console yourself and console him.
    Your father has no right over your body. At 12 weeks your baby enjoys legal protection. I seriously wouldn't mind suing him to shake him up then dropping the case along the way so he knows you know what you're doing and you know what you want.
    As you said yourself God is on the throne. I wish you all the best.

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  5. I think you're still a baby, is your dad the doc that killed your baby or did he killed it spiritually? How did it happened? Well all the same, you're not a kid and your dad is not suppose to tell you what to do, meaning who to get married to. He is not the one to be in the marriage but you, the world is widely opened this is not the time to do not get married to this person because of his/her tribe. You're an adult you should know what is good for you not your dad. The only right he have is to say yes to the marriage nothing more. You can get married to someone from jalingo that is not his biz, what matters is your happiness. #Ella

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    1. Lol..exactly what I had in mind...maybe he did it spiritually

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