Monday, September 21, 2015

Are You Truly Ready?

That you are thirty doesn't mean you are ready for marriage. It takes more than age to be married. Many rush into marriage without preparing themselves to be married. A twenty years old could be ready and better prepared for marriage than a forty years old. Man or woman, you must prepare to be married. You must accept the fact that it stops being about 'ME'; it becomes about 'US' the very moment you sign the dotted line.

If you are not ready to drop the 'I' for 'We', you are not ready to be married. If you love partying, you may end up with someone who hates to party. If you love to eat pasta, you may find yourself in marriage with someone who likes nothing else but rice. It takes the understanding that it's no longer about you to reach a compromise and keep it balanced.

Again, if you don't know what sacrificial giving is, you won't make a good spouse.
The word 'I love you' is used more in our generation but there is less understanding of what true love is. Yes, you don't lose your individuality in marriage, but the fact remains that certain parts of that individuality must be lost for you to be happily married.

Can you stand with that person when life hits hard on him or her? Can that person rely on you to face the world? When every other person abandons your spouse, will you stand with and for him or her without trying to take advantage of the situation? When that woman/man gets bedridden, will you still love her/him and be faithful?

Yes, the society expects us to get married at a certain age. I am for a woman or man being married at a young age and if God permits, have his or her babies early enough. Genuine companionship is one of the most beautiful things marriage gives.
But are we going to just jump into it without being prepared for it? The answer is no. Instead of spending time looking for the perfect guy or girl, spend more time making yourself the perfect one. Instead of you spending time jumping from one prayer house to the other seeking help to be married and allowing some con men eat from your ignorance, you should spend time developing yourself. Instead of dreaming and looking for those beautiful Vera Wang bridal dresses and trying hard to have a destination wedding, spend more time on building yourself to have a good marriage.

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