Good morning my sister the good lord reward you for your wonderful work you have been doing
I need some encouragement from you and some of your fans!!
I have written to you before about my wife's behavior (Read More)
The problem is this I'm not close to her, I'm outside the country but she's in Nigeria.
I rent an apartment for her to live, I do visit her every six to seven months
She finished her youth service and I told her instead of you looking for a job, is better I rent a shop for you to start something which I did and I send some goods for her to sell without any return to me ..
I also bought all her material things from here,I call her everyday twice !!!
But her problem is that she was never respectful and loyal,she hide many things from me.
She hide her age from me before I got married to her but age is not my problem, each time we had problems she won't come to apologise instead she will go around and chat her guys friends which I don't like!! She never agree on being wrong.
Thanks waiting for your encouragement
Dear husband, I understand that your wife hid her age from you but sir, I feel that you have not forgiven her of this particular offence of hers which has made you doubt her good morning to I love you.
It seems to me that you simply cannot accept her irrespective of all your efforts and commitment to support her in your own little way.
The first encouragement you need from me is forgiveness.
Forgiveness is the only balm that not only heals you of your pains but also liberates you from the struggle and burden of doubt and constant misunderstanding.
Please forgive her from the depth of your heart and offer her love instead of keeping records of her shortcomings.
She isn't perfect and that was why she got married to you believing that in your love and support, she will become a better, happier and fulfilled lady.
She looks to you as the hero of her heart and hormones and she's yearning for your love.
Instead of establishing some business for her, maybe you should invite her over or take her on a vacation or holidays with you so that she will get to see what you do and how you cope there.
Draw her closer to you and she will learn to adore and respect you as her husband.
Most times long distance relationship and marriage brings a lot of pressure and doubt amongst couples which if not managed with wisdom and patience may explode to you considering divorce as an alternative.
Sometimes your perceptions of her attitude may not be the true nature of her character but the reaction of her many struggles and weaknesses.
Give your partner some time to understand your personality and vision for her and draw her closer to you with patience, understanding and selfless devotion.
I believe that your marriage will prosper when forgive her of her shortcomings and bring her closer to your heart with love and understanding.
Dear poster,
ReplyDeleteAunty Amara nailed it here. . .
"Instead of establishing some business for her, maybe you should invite her over or take her on a vacation or holidays with you so that she will get to see what you do and how you cope there.
Draw her closer to you and she will learn to adore and respect you as her husband".