Please, I'm a young lady of 26 years in a serious relationship with a guy I'm three years older than. we met in our first year in the varsity and since then, we have been together though aware of the age difference. we are both serving now.
The challenge right now is: we are afraid that the age difference will be a barrier to our settling down together.
We have maintained a chaste relationship and complemented each other for six years now, we agreed we have to seek counsel to know how to go about it.
Please ma, I need your honest advice. we are already being enwrapped in the fear of the unknown.
Looking forward to your response. Thanks a lot!
The only person who really need to how old you are is not in laws and friends but only your partner. This is because you are meant to be naked to each other without shame, worries and fear.
So if you and your partner are comfortable with your age difference, then you have no reason to worry about it.
However I will share some few information that you need to keep in mind as a lady.
You must put your age behind you and humble yourself before your partner.
You must always remember that he's your head and his opinions should be respected even when it may not so comfortable for you.
Because of the pressure that comes with waiting till when he's financially balanced before getting married to him, you will have to synergise with him in order for you to get married to each other without so much stress and tension.
You may know how anointed and blessed a woman's lips maybe in times of misunderstanding, please never you raise up the issue of how old you are or try to control him as though you are his mother and everything must be done in your own way.
Irrespective of your financial capacity, please remember that he's your leader and you need to honour him with all you have.
Please under no circumstances should your friends know the age of your partner to avoid being reduced to a mocking object.
The success and failure of your relationship or marriage is dependent on you and your partner and nothing else.
Love conquers every fear of the unknown and the known and there's no force in the universe that can separate two hearts that are consumed with love and selfless devotion.
Instead of getting wrapped up by the fear of the unknown, I feel it's best for you to plan for your future and life after NYSC.
It's time to equip yourself with the skills and virtues that you need to excel in business, career development and in the society.
As you leave your place of primary assignment, you will be venturing into your place of life assignment where you take responsibility for your decision and not be pushed around by those around you or circumstances that may challenge your convictions in each other.
If you are convinced within your spirit that he's the one God has prepared for your journey and he's genuinely convinced that you are the help meet God has designed for his ministry in life, nothing and I repeat that nothing can be a barrier for you and your partner in seeing your vision become a reality.
All you need to do is to work with each other and plan ahead for your journey together.
With wisdom, understanding and patience, both of you will find fulfilment and happiness in love and life.
Well spoken sis Amara but I must confess that it is not as easy as we think. I ran from a woman that loved me with her live because of age and am not regretting it till date. Like you said in your advice to her "You may know how anointed and blessed a woman's lips maybe in times of misunderstanding, please never you raise up the issue of how old you are or try to control him as though you are his mother and everything must be done in your own way" 95% of women will fail here. I think she needs to think more .
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