Friday, October 16, 2015

I'm Losing My Mind!

Am 28 years old,I got married to a man I thought was a gentleman. After our wedding, I learnt he was once married to a lady in Nigeria but barely one year, the marriage didn't work. 
I  got married to him in 2009,then I was 22 years young and naive. I got pregnant and I had to stay with his family because he stayed in abroad. His elder sister who was not married then made life so miserable for me,and l went into prayers for her and she got married. 
I thought her getting married will change anything but no it didn't,she was so in control of my man that she even told me in one of her abuses that she had my marriage with his brother in her palm,so much for me that I could bear. 
I left the house with my little child to my parents,I decided to move on before he now decided I join him with my daughter abroad. Barely some months I got to know a lot about him. He womanise,drinks,smokes and I found out he has seven kids from four differnt women. 
He beats me up and I couldn't put all in writing,we later separated. After some months he came begging after several attempt for him to send me back to Nigeria but failed. 
My friends and family says he doesn't deserve me but I know I don't hate him but I need something better.
Please I need a help because am losing it. 
The strange thing about your marriage is that you are married to a complete stranger who is married to many women who are unknown to you. 
While I understand that you don't hate him, i don't know how safe and healthy it is for you to continue living with him especially when he is abusive and violent. 
While it's awesome to have the "Mrs" tag added to your name, it's terrible when the translation of such tag is miserable and you are trying your best to survive in such a harsh condition. 
When there's a threat to life, please think of safety first and the welfare of your child before considering marriage not because you hate your partner but because you need to be alive to nurture your children to greatness and also find a solution to the challenges and concerns of your marriage. 
Having several children who are unknown to you doesn't paint a picture of a man who understands the values and purpose of marriage and his duties to his family. 
I wouldn't be the one to tell you what to do but one thing is certain and you need to sort it out from its roots in order to enjoy your marriage else you may need to work your way out of his life and develop yourself to support your child. 

6 comments:

  1. Dear poster,
    So u say u don't hate him,that may b noble,but u certainly don't like his attitude. Or Well, should I say u still feel something for him cos he gave u dat tag 'Mrs'. It's Obvious u don't see at all that your life is at Stake. And for whatever it's worth, U can't love while u are dead. U only live to love. Pls be alive for the sake of ur kid cos they too still need u more.

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  2. one of those di obodo oyibo stories u got hooked to him, when u were naive according to your write up by now I guess u should know better @28 u're no longer d naive girl u are now a woman and a mother,your safety n that of ur child should b your priority,u are in an abusive marriage and u have only one option which is to opt out,God give u d courage to hold out strong.

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  3. one of those di obodo oyibo stories u got hooked to him, when u were naive according to your write up by now I guess u should know better @28 u're no longer d naive girl u are now a woman and a mother,your safety n that of ur child should b your priority,u are in an abusive marriage and u have only one option which is to opt out,God give u d courage to hold out strong.

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  4. one of those di obodo oyibo stories u got hooked to him, when u were naive according to your write up by now I guess u should know better @28 u're no longer d naive girl u are now a woman and a mother,your safety n that of ur child should b your priority,u are in an abusive marriage and u have only one option which is to opt out,God give u d courage to hold out strong.

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