Wednesday, October 14, 2015

What Should I Do?

May Almighty God bless you.
Please ma I want to share my problem with you.
Am a lady of 27 years and I met a guy last three years and we started dating but  this my guy told me that he has a girlfriend that they have dated almost eight years. 
So later the girl got pregnant to another guy and left him, aunty Amara everybody knew of this;my guy's family knew about that incident, so they were very annoyed with the girl because they hoped that she was the one their son would marry. 
So they  told their son to forget about the girl and move on maybe that was how God wanted it. Aunty Amara so I continued with this my guy, everything was moving perfectly ok between both of us, so this my guy introduced me to their parents and all of their family accepted me.
But aunty Amara, my greatest surprise was that her old girlfriend aborted the pregnancy and came back to that my guy begging him for forgiveness but their family did not want to use their eyes to see the girl anymore, so that my guy told her that the case is not in her hand but his family. 
Aunty Amara but this girl is still coming even sleeping in that my guy's house till morning, but if I ask that my guy he will tell me that he just render her a help just to sleep, that tomorrow she will go. 
I just left them, but on Monday night she came again and slept and went back on Tuesday morning. 
But if their parents asked him about the girl, my guy will tell them that she was no more coming there anymore while she was. All their family members like me so much including their mum and Dad but I don’t know what to do right now because they continue saying that their son will not marry that girl, that is me they know for now because their son have introduced me to them that they do not want to see anybody except me. 
The funny part of your mail was that you have proclaimed this man and you are ready to collaborate with his parents to establish yourself in their family while he continues to help his girlfriend at night. 
A man who specialises in helping a lady at night and doesn't make a decision on who to marry isn't actually fit for a relationship talk more of marriage if you ask me though. 
Also if his parents are the ones to choose who to marry, what made you think that he's responsible, emotionally stable and spiritually focused to make a lifetime commitment with you in marriage? 
I feel that you may need to take some steps backward and get yourself busy with work and self development or empowerment. 
Even if his parents and relatives have endorsed your candidature, it doesn't really translate to the fact that he must marry you and even if they succeed, you may be frustrated, disappointed and unfulfilled in your marriage because he may be helping other ladies at night elsewhere or may never appreciate your presence and sacrifice to him and the marriage. 
Give him some space and if it's possible, forget about him and allow God to reveal some things that may not be clearer to you at the moment. 
Enrol yourself into some skills that will make you productive and enhance your personality. 
I believe that a man who genuinely loves you shouldn't be helping single ladies out in the night especially when you are also around him to render the same help possibly at the appropriate time.


  1. Pls wake up cuz that guy is just deceiving u and he is just using u as a substitute.

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  3. Hahahahahaha, Mr. Helper my foot, Babe it's right time to think with your brain and not your heart.

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