Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Am Down with So Much Pains!

Beautiful morning to you aunty Amy!!! I really want to appreciate you for your good works..
Aunty Amy right now I really wish I had a close big sister that I can talk heart to heart to but there is none now that was why I have to come to you again cos I believe I can talk to you and you can help me now and any other time I need someone to talk to or when I need some advise.
Although this was my second time of writing to you without response but please I beg you this time not to look down on me,I know it's not worth your time I just needed some advise please!!!..
Have been going out with this guy for about two to three years now,I met him before I gained admission into school he has always been there for me in every little way he can.
What I loved most about him was that he's God fearing and a caring person too but I also dislike something about him which was the way he makes me feel less important and also like the worst person on earth because he thinks am not close to God or just because I don't go to church always like day-in day-out to make matter worse I think he's not even proud to have me as his girlfriend reasons were because countless of times he uses some other lady pictures as his display pictures both on his computer, WhatsApp and so but he barely even have any of my pictures on his phone while I flex him everywhere even on my WhatsApp thereby chasing all the male friends I have.
Have asked countless of time about this lady and he keeps telling me there's nothing between them that they are just friends but sincerely if you go through their chat you will see that there is something more to them just being friends.
For sometime now he stopped calling or caring but I did not border much and didn't want to think about it because I was writing my final exams in school and seriously didn't need anything to border me but after exams I noticed it well so I called him and asked if there was any problem, he said no not until last two weeks he called and was telling me to move on with my life if I get to find someone better for me that he doesn't want to waste my time that he can't see us getting married I asked why,he said because we don't share same vision but he still loves me and we can be together until I find another.
Aunty Amy!! right now am so down with so much pains in my heart ,words can't explain how or what am feeling cos I really gave my best to this relationship.
Have been trying to control it and concentrate on my project but the more I keep trying to act like nothing happened the more pains I get just really wish to know why he's actually leaving me.
Was it just because he thinks I don't know or draw him close to God or he's leaving cos he thinks I don't have or share same vision with him or because we are not from the same tribe or he's simply leaving me for another woman!!!.
Just seriously need some advise on how to handle this and move on with my life especially on how to forget about love,and how to pursue my dreams, my vision and my mission.
Just want to be a better and fulfilled person in life without falling in love again at least not yet.
Please I hope to hear from you soon help heal a broken heart.. Thanks.

Dear sweet heart, 
He simply left you because he has found another lady who perhaps fits into the kind of lady that he desires to relate with or date. 
He left not when he called you but the moment he started chatting with that "just friend" of his whose pictures he displays everywhere in the world. 
He was only tolerating you and I beats my imagination why you had to reduce yourself to checking his phones and having to literally beg him to love you. 
At least a God fearing person says the truth which is lacking in his life and he has simply succeeded in making you feel two times worse than you thought of yourself. 
You see, when a man doesn't see the need to communicate with you and then has many other just friends that occupies his life, it's a good time to leave the relationship and find out why you should be an option to a partner you made a priority in your life. 
Being with a partner who pity you and treat you like you don't exist is worse than being single because the person only manipulates you to get what he or she wants and next tell you to move on if you meet a better person who was ready for a relationship. 
Forgive him for not being honest with you and forgive yourself for giving your time and heart to him when from all indications, he was never part of you in the relationship. 
Get busy loving yourself and you will see the flakes of rejection fall off from your life and all around you. 
Bid him goodbye and remember that for him to have rejected you meant that God has a better man for you and your destiny. 
Go for what you love and give your heart to your vision. 
Be happy with what God has done for you and be encouraged by his promises that never fails. 
In no distant future, you will look back at him and smile "thank God that I left him when I did". 
Cheer up dear and be hopeful for a better future. 

2 comments:

  1. I guess you're so young also isn't your first boyfriend or someone you love so much, I know what are you feeling right now.
    Thanks to God and run to Him only God is able to heal from this pains my dear, pray munch more and fasting if you can but you need it to overcome these bad days and do not forget to ask to Lord to give you strength and light to move on. Sooner you're going to meet a right man who is a God fearing and caring as well to love more than you. We learned always by those pains to be a right and experience people. Focus in your school my dear your future is brilliant.

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  2. I guess you're so young also isn't your first boyfriend or someone you love so much, I know what are you feeling right now.
    Thanks to God and run to Him only God is able to heal from this pains my dear, pray munch more and fasting if you can but you need it to overcome these bad days and do not forget to ask to Lord to give you strength and light to move on. Sooner you're going to meet a right man who is a God fearing and caring as well to love more than you. We learned always by those pains to be a right and experience people. Focus in your school my dear your future is brilliant.

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