Wednesday, November 4, 2015

He Hardly Communicates with Me!

Am in a relationship with this guy who is 30 and am 24 years old. We've been dating for five years now,and we engaged recently.
Last month he left the country For South Africa ,all these while we've been communicating on WhatsApp both chat and calls..

Although this guy has helped me and my family and I have also helped him too to achieve his goals,have sacrificed a lot for this guy and I love him too. His family loves me like their own blood!
Right now am serving in one of the states in south south( Batch A 2015), I have just five months left in my service year.
But last month,he sent me money to pay to be an apprentice (stylist) so as to have an handwork because when he brings me over to SA.
We've been good,not until 30th of October a little misunderstanding ensued between us.

I sent him a WhatsApp message on the 29th (morning), which he told me he was busy. Expecting that he would call/chat when he's less busy but I was wrong.
In the evening I sent him a message,he didn't read it nor reply but it showed he was online.
The most painful part was that he updated his Facebook and said "club things" even when he came back ,he didn't check on me.
Fast forward to Saturday, he replied the mesage I left on Friday,calling it a rubbish message or do I think he's in Nigeria or did I think he was jobless like me?
So I told him point of correction am not jobless. He said so many annoying things but I just replied him with "okay " to avoid quarrel.
So we laughed over it,and asked me where I was,I told him and he said I should face my work while he faces his work too.
Out of annoyance, I said workaholic bye bye o. Immediately ,he said he will stop chatting with me,before I knew it he had already blocked me.
We've not been talking since that day till now,this morning I noticed he has unblocked me..
Please what do you suggest I do? Please reply,thanks and God bless.


I had to recheck his age to understand why he has decided to tow the path of negligence and selfishness with pride and rudeness in the relationship. 
For you to have sacrificed five years for the relationship and him shows that you both appreciate and accept each other and have decided to grow together in love with each other. 
At this point in your relationship, this ought not to be the challenge you should be experiencing but I would love to hear from him to understand why he has suddenly realised that you are jobless, and of no importance to him. 
I would love to know why he has decided to ignore communication in your relationship and why he feels that living in South Africa makes him a great man that you now have to lick his buttocks all in the name of relationship. 
Like I said, I would request that he writes me and help me make meaning of his attitude before I could share my thoughts with you. 
But in the meantime, please forget about chatting with him and focus on your programme, pay attention to learning the skills and give more time to reading your books. 
That you are a graduate doesn't mean that you should not be reading and that you should be wasting your time trying to chat with the hardworking fiancĂ© so that he can focus on his work and not be distracted by the lady he proposed marriage to. 
Forgive him really and pray for him because the path that he's towing is really annoying and painful to say the least. 
Let's hope that the riches of his account and the pride of life haven't changed his attitude and personality. 
When he writes me, then I will be glad to discuss more about this with you and your partner. 

2 comments:

  1. Please loving is not slavery so I guess this man has a girl where is living that's why he behaves like that however don't show him deeply love if doesn't call you for awhile focus on something which is going to help to be more independent also I know that lady not easy but with the Lord you're able to overcome this issue.Run to God and keep in prayer and watch he will come to ask your forgiveness. Stay blessed

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  2. Please loving is not slavery so I guess this man has a girl where is living that's why he behaves like that however don't show him deeply love if doesn't call you for awhile focus on something which is going to help to be more independent also I know that lady not easy but with the Lord you're able to overcome this issue.Run to God and keep in prayer and watch he will come to ask your forgiveness. Stay blessed

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