Thursday, November 12, 2015

I Don't Allow Him to Touch me Anymore!

Dear mummy Amara God bless you for what you have been doing in lives and marriage restoration.
My story goes thus: I have been married for one year now and to a God fearing man.
When I met him I use to think men are all the same in the sense that they don't keep to one woman. After our three months of courtship then we proceeded to engagement and afterwards I noticed that he was a player and a womanizer that had a very bad reputation but he was still very spiritual and attends church services and other activities regularly.
I was shocked to the marrows but then I was already in love with him so I confronted him on that and he swore that he has changed.
We went on with other marriage rites and finally we were married and I have a daughter now but my husband presently is still playing his usual games sleeping with different women in his office and when he comes back they call him at late hours and when I ask him, he will say that they are mere clients but when I go through his chats and inbox, I will find out that those days he said he won't come back home were the nights he actually spent with other women.
Am heart broken and I don't allow him touch me again because am afraid of contracting disease.
So please I need your advice am passing through hell now.

It takes more than being God fearing and religious to make a man worthy of being a responsible husband and leader in his home.
He may still speak in tongues and preach the Bible eloquently but without self discipline and personal relationship with God, he will be unable to remain faithful to his wife and it's more pathetic when you knew of his weakness and then decided to love him irrespective of his imperfections and many lies.
It's actually not quite possible for anyone to change another especially when they knew their areas of weaknesses and it's sometimes frustrating and painful at the same time but if you wish to succeed in your marriage with him, you will need to endure, tolerate, persevere and pray that God will rescue him from the laps of women.
Denying him sex will be giving him the licence to cheat with every authority which also is counter productive to the solutions you are seeking for.
Continue to plead with him and encourage him not to destroy the home and the children that God has blessed him with.
Instead of denying him sex, maybe protected sex will be better off than completely punishing him.
In your words, I have already fallen in love with him and for me, now is the best time to show him how much your love can endure and survive the challenges of infidelity.
Well until a man is arrested by the Holy spirit and he genuinely repents from cheating, every promise is only but a deceptive mechanism to make you feel happy and he will always look out for potential clients for weekend meetings.
Reporting him to anyone may not have any lasting impact on his conscience but will only make him device means and ways of cheating without you getting the trace of it.
Pray for him and do your best, it's not something that's pretty easy but by God's grace, I believe that the stormy part of your marriage will soon phase off for glorious moments.

3 comments:

  1. You knew who is before you got married. At that time he was a type of man are you looking for right now you noticed that you're unable to keep it for you however you can't bring any changing in his life by behave what you're doing just run to God and pray more only that way can give what are you expecting.have a great day

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  2. You knew who is before you got married. At that time he was a type of man are you looking for right now you noticed that you're unable to keep it for you however you can't bring any changing in his life by behave what you're doing just run to God and pray more only that way can give what are you expecting.have a great day

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  3. Funny enough...so many men found in churches actually go there to scout for women to woo likewise women too..
    It takes more than going to church regularly to be God fearing...
    There's so much difference between a God fearing person and a church goer..
    I've always been of the opinion that you don't get married to a partner hoping to change a bad trait in marriage..
    The moment you discover a character and you know you can't cope with such in marriage, graciously take a bow...it could be difficult and painful to do this but it's better to feel such temporal pain that heals with time than feel the pain that lasts throughout the span of the marriage except there is a divine intervention..

    It takes more than just spoken words and promises to stop a bad habit...we must know this..
    Dear poster
    I wouldn't stand to blame you at all for what you're going through cos afterall...it works for some but it's unfortunate it didn't go as you planned it would..
    I feel you should involve the pastor of the church he attends...you can't decide alone amidst this pain and heartbreak..
    Also..do not forget to pray for this situation..i pray God shows up on your behalf...Amen

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