Tuesday, December 15, 2015

He's a Muslim and my Parents are Pastors!

Good afternoon Aunty! Finally I have found someone who loves me unconditionally, treats me like a queen, accepted my past and is willing to make our future peaceful and conducive but my problem is that he's a Muslim and my parents are pastors.
Aunty the truth is left to me I don't mind settling down with him because he is an answered prayer from God unlike most Christian guys who only pretend to be Christians but are wolves in sheep clothing, pretenders, cheaters and so on.
I have been through a lot with relationships and men and just when I decided to be selfish with my heart, this lovely personality came up and wiped away tears of my past.
He's a best friend, lover, playmate because we play like kids and funny enough he hasn't made a move for sex from me. He respects my body and adores my personality and is helping me be a better woman.
By the way I know some people will say I should face my studies, am a graduate of Masters in Information Systems. Aunty please I need your advice on this issue ...
Thanks and God bless you.


I bless God for the level you have attained in your academics and I pray that he will establish you and position you in a place where this knowledge, skills and experiences will be of immense benefit to the society, your family and your neighbours. 
I am happy that you have found love in your friend and this has revived the beautiful lady in you. 
I understand the pains you went through and I thank God that you chose not to give up on God even when it was not convenient for you. 
However it will be wrong to say that most Christian guys are wolves in sheep's clothing. To start with, for the fact that a man attends church programmes and is committed to the church doesn't mean that he's a Christian and for the fact that his parents were pastors or priests doesn't also mean that his children has come to the knowledge of the word of God. 
Left for me, I would simply tell you not to consider the opinions of anyone but simply marry the man who makes you happy and fulfilled irrespective of his religion because I do know that love has no language or religion or race but simply a heart that is willing to give up everything to love and give love. 
But then again I would love to remind you of this scripture and encourage you to seek the face of God concerning your decision about this.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, “I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
2 Corinthians 6:14-16 ESV
Let me help you understand this scripture much better. Marriage is more than meeting a nice man who simply does everything possible to make you happy and fulfilled in life, it's a union of two different ideologies, perceptions, and vision and the decision you make today will not just affect you but will also affect your children and your generation which is why I would suggest that you consider your spiritual compatibility first before your happiness to avoid struggling later with him. 
Remember that once you have decided to get married to him, you lose your right to decide what you feel is good for yourself and your children and will be left with his decisions and opinions. 
You may want to know that as a Muslim, they are not restricted to one wife and so you should be willing to accommodate him should he desire to marry another lady. 
So please do not just focus on what your parents may say about this but consider where his love will lead you and how you hope to balance your relationship with God with your relationship with him without having any misunderstanding or rift later on in your marriage. 
If you are convinced that he's God's plan for your life, then you may then discuss that with your parents and pray that they understand that this is what you desire for your happiness and fulfilment in life. 
Seek the face of God and be convinced before making your intentions and decisions known to your parents. 

8 comments:

  1. Lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz the reason why I laugh so hard is because we ladies don't listen, my dear amara is being nice with her words because she's supposed to but am not, look dear if you enter that marriage you are in for a hell, I was once like you, I followed love, now sweetheart the story is different, am a prisoner in my own home. Please they are so ooooo ooooo nice at the beginning but later you are given the condition on how to stay, with kids involved and their knowledge that most Christian will not opt for divorce. DONT DO IT GOD WILL BRING SOMEONE ELSE FOR YOU,A GOOD CHRISTIAN.

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  2. If you are genuinely seeking for advice, listen to (1) Amara (2) The anonymous poster, which is a bonus.

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  3. scrutinize the nitty-gritty of differences between love and infatuation before you even disturb God for conviction. Christ is a man of possibility; He may use you as a factor to redeem the man but the devastating side of this is that the devil may also use him to deceive and cage you in a long time predicament. be wise like a serpent says the Lord.

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  4. scrutinize the nitty-gritty of differences between love and infatuation before you even disturb God for conviction. Christ is a man of possibility; He may use you as a factor to redeem the man but the devastating side of this is that the devil may also use him to deceive and cage you in a long time predicament. be wise like a serpent says the Lord.

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  5. We once had this family friend who was a very strong Christian and prayer warrior. She was married to an equally loving and endearing Muslim husband for years. He never married a 2nd wife. They had a peacefully-enviable home infact. But from time to time, he would try to persuade his loving wife to convert. After a very long time *and I mean about 5 yes or a decade and some into their marriage, she finally succumbed. That same year....In short months later, he married a 2nd wife. My darling, even a Catholic marrying a pentecostal if not handled well can breed separation talk less of an entirely different faith. Don't let the devil give u a decorated village in lieu of a beautifully prepared city....a village is always and will remain a village no matter how well decorated. Stay blessed

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  6. Hmmmmmmmmmmm! Wonderful,my dear use ur head in dis situation,not ur heart...de look so nice in d beginning,but dat wolf in sheep clothin leter. Be wise......

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  7. sweetheart.....remember emotions...feelings ...rr subject to change.....but his religion.....only a supernatural miracle will change that.when all is said and done...the only thing remaining between yourselves will be your religions - your Gods. the religion compatibility is an essential area to consider when getting married.thanks

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