Wednesday, December 30, 2015

What Are my Chances with Him?

Good morning aunty. How are you doing and compliments of the season
There's this guy I met on Facebook in September. He was everything I desired in a man and more and we got along just fine. He was serious about building a relationship with me and I was too. He told me he has a daughter and am okay with that.
At the early stage of our 'relationship' we couldn't get enough of each other (not sexually). We spoke every minute, even chatted till midnight. Then all of a sudden, things changed. We began to drift apart. If I try to bring it up, he will treat it nonchalantly saying I was assuming things but I knew what I was saying. He even stopped calling (I do most of the calling) saying they were owing him where he worked. He logs out in the middle of a chat, and then sometimes he won't pick his call up to the sixth time of calling. Sometimes he apologizes, at other times he doesn't.
One day, I came online and saw that a lady tagged him to her picture. Out of curiosity, I opened the woman's page (I don't always do this after all I've being seeing other tags). Lo and behold the profile picture was that of the guy and this woman in a traditional marriage attire. I went through the album and discovered he was married to her and they had three kids. The last baby was not up to six months.
I was devastated. I cried and poured out my heart to God. Days later, I confronted him. He didn't deny it. He said they were separated and that he had no plans of having her back and that why he didn't tell me was that he felt the issue was a sensitive one and that he thought it wise to wait till we meet before saying it. That he told me about his daughter because she was in his custody.
I asked if the bride price has been returned, he said no. That the girl's family has been sending emissaries to him but that his mind was made up because of the things she did to him and particularly his mum. The lady was sending more and more of their family pictures to his timeline. He was also clicking the like button on almost all of the pictures. He said he wanted me in his life that's why he opened up to a relationship.
Aunty am confused here. What are my chances with this guy? Do you think he loves me? What of his wife and kids. Honestly I won't mind him reconciling with the wife when I first found out at least for the sake of the children but he said he swallowed a whole lot from her just for the children's sake but right now he was not denying they were his children, children or no children that he must move on. Pls house talk to me. What do I do?

If there is no certificate of divorce, there is a possibility for reconciliation so you don't want to be the third party in their marriage. 
Granted that his mind maybe made up but you don't need to influence his decision by your presence and support.
Kindly keep off from him and desist from communicating with him. If he has already divorced his wife, perhaps we may be talking about love and how happy you will be with him but for now I feel that he needs to put his house in order before inviting guests.

3 comments:

  1. You are just desperate. If you don't mind them reconciling, why then do you hang on. You want to have him. Hope on.. .When you finally succeed, you will have it hotter.

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  2. My dear,just run as much you could,to me,with this details,he is catfishing."They are owning him"does he want you to give him money,i feel he also deliberately wants to eat from you too,if you are not careful.Just pray and talk to God.

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  3. My dear,just run as much you could,to me,with this details,he is catfishing."They are owning him"does he want you to give him money,i feel he also deliberately wants to eat from you too,if you are not careful.Just pray and talk to God.

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