The problem is I'm studying in a different city because where we live there's no my course. I used to travel every weekend to see him and spend some time with him.
But since this problem, I don't love him anymore, I don't feel like continuing with him. I just feel pain and hatred especially when he wants to touch me. He irritates me in whatever he try to do to please me. I don't want to divorce him because of our two kids . I don't know what to do.. I need your advice.
He has so much offended you that whenever you look at him, you will literally mirror the thousand errors and shortcomings that he has. You can literally remember how he offended you, the words he said, the messages on his phone and the ladies he was dating.
It's absolutely normal for you to feel that way and for you to resent him and everything that concerns him but love wouldn't take that route not because his attitude to you was awesome but because you know that your husband is a vulnerable man who yearns to be assisted or supported by you.
You will not forgive him because of your children or the recommendations of your church elders but you will choose to forgive him because you could remember the humble beginnings, when it was only you and your partner. You will choose to forgive him because you have decided to stand with him even in his weaknesses and in his nakedness.
You will let go of the past and work with him to accomplish the purpose for which God has ordained your marriage.
You will choose from the depth of your heart to give him another chance and bond with him in order to strengthen your heart and also draw him closer to your body instead of pushing him away with your attitude.
You resent every of his efforts because his errors and shortcomings are daily ringing in your heart and until you let go of those pains and errors, there is no way you will be happy with him or win your marriage.
We all have moments of weakness and times when we need the help, understanding, support and suggestions of someone for us to remain strong and positive in our journey. If you genuinely love your children, and you still have the hope that someday your marriage will be awesome with your husband, if you hope to build a home where you will grow old and be happy with all that God has blessed you with,it begins with forgiving your husband and giving him another chance to win your heart again and be happy with you.
Shutting him down and rejecting him will only drive you far away from him and would put your marriage in a jeopardy.
Please ask God for grace to forgive and choose to forgive him and release him from the bondage of your pains and disappointment.
That is what you need to do to redeem your marriage and your sexual fulfilment as couples.
Madam, at this point you need to talk to him and be convincing, make him understand the gravity of what he is doing, make him understand how you feel and how bad the things he does make you feel. Pray for/with him, let him know he doesn't need to get outside his matrimonial home to be happy. Though some men can't be satisfied in this life, but Obi wouldn't remain a boy forever, talk change into him and hopefully you both will be happy again. It's really not easy seeing your husband cheat on you, it's really heartbreaking but measures can be taken to make him know how serious you are about your complains this time around.
ReplyDeleteMadam, at this point you need to talk to him and be convincing, make him understand the gravity of what he is doing, make him understand how you feel and how bad the things he does make you feel. Pray for/with him, let him know he doesn't need to get outside his matrimonial home to be happy. Though some men can't be satisfied in this life, but Obi wouldn't remain a boy forever, talk change into him and hopefully you both will be happy again. It's really not easy seeing your husband cheat on you, it's really heartbreaking but measures can be taken to make him know how serious you are about your complains this time around.
ReplyDeleteLook at how it's been said as if its that easy.forgiving a cheating partner requires on Grace from God to forgive and ready to put up.but as usal women are alyz at the reciving end for marriage to work over a cheating partner.cuz divorce is wrong.I feel u dear sis.but Wetin u go do than to accept faith.
ReplyDeleteHello Madam.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain and disdain for your husband for continuously hurting you. I'm urging you now to put this matter into the hands of God and tell God to fight this battle for you! Tell Him to expose all your husband's extra marital affairs and keep him faithful to you by some miracle. Open the book of psalms and offer some powerful prayers on his behalf!! Fast and pray for him my dear. The rest will be history I'm assuring you and you'll be happy and fulfilled once again in your marriage. But please do yourself a big favour by forgiving him and God will bless and favour you too. He will in His own time settle this matter. In a matter of days, I promise you. Take care.
Hello Madam.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain and disdain for your husband for continuously hurting you. I'm urging you now to put this matter into the hands of God and tell God to fight this battle for you! Tell Him to expose all your husband's extra marital affairs and keep him faithful to you by some miracle. Open the book of psalms and offer some powerful prayers on his behalf!! Fast and pray for him my dear. The rest will be history I'm assuring you and you'll be happy and fulfilled once again in your marriage. But please do yourself a big favour by forgiving him and God will bless and favour you too. He will in His own time settle this matter. In a matter of days, I promise you. Take care.