Saturday, January 23, 2016

I'm Dying Inside!

Good evening ma, may God bless you in Jesus name Amen. I got married in January last year and God bless me immediately and gave me a son in October to the glory of the Lord. I married my husband after one month we knew each other. I was so happy but the problem is that he doesn't talk to me nor share his problems with me, we can be in the house for three months and we cannot talk to each other, it will be only greeting or he will call me on phone to know how am feeling and if I try to talk or joke with him he will be very angry and say that I talk too much.
I don't know anything about him all I know is that he is my husband so I have tried talking to him, all he could say was that I suppose to know that he was not the talking type. Our marriage was one year on the 10th of January so he called me and said that he vowed that he can never tell me anything about himself because am too STRAIGHT FORWARD that he doesn't like it.
The truth is that he is faithful, he doesn't cheat and I can swear for him with my life. Since he said that am confused sometimes I will be thinking that he doesn't love me because he doesn't show it he always stay on his own.
Please ma what will I do? Am dying deep inside because of his character. I want to free him from this marriage if he is not happy with me. We did both traditional and white wedding but I don't understand him. Please help me what can I do because am living in that house as a slave, to make love to me I must beg if I didn't he will not do anything since we got married till today he only touched me three times. If I complain he will give excuses, am heart broken!


I am praying fervently that God will redeem your marriage and restore the joy of being in your home and the garden of love in Jesus name Amen.
The painful thing is that your marriage is too young but it's already slipping down to divorce if something drastic isn't done to salvage your marriage.
I would personally wish that your husband write to me so that I can hear from him and find out what exactly is going on in your marriage.
But if all you said be true, I'm afraid to say that you are married to a young boy who have no idea what marriage truly entails.
You said that he has touched you three times in twelve months period and I'm wondering what your marriage is all about when there is no intimacy in your home. And coupled with the fact that he doesn't communicate with you simply leaves me imagining who he's truly married to because he's already cheating on you which is why you are angry and deeply pained.
Cheating is not only when a man sleeps with another lady but it also included when there is something or someone or anything else that takes the place and the position of your partner in your life to the extent that he or she has no regards or respect for the other partner.
Some individuals cheat with their phones, some friends, some drinks, some football, some their work and so on. So he may not be sleeping around but he's totally not married to you in all ramifications.
The moment he got married to you, he lost the right to keep you in the dark or keep secrets or give you reasons why he shouldn't communicate with you. The moment he got married, he lost the right to decide when to have sex with you and how you should communicate with him.
He lost his right to living as a bachelor and received the grace to discharge his duties even though they may be challenging or enormous. He is sincerely humiliating you in your home because I mean I cannot imagine that all that a husband and wife discusses everyday is good morning and good night.
Please tell him that I would love to hear from him because this isn't actually ordinary.
While we hope that he will consider my suggestion, please continue to pray for him and to shower him with all the love that you can offer. Do not push anything with him, simply communicate with your eyes and ears while you minimise the use of your mouth.
I pray that God will intervene in your marriage and help you win the heart of your husband to you while I look forward to talking with him.

12 comments:

  1. The man is not a talkative but you seriously want him to be. You just said he calls you to check up on you, what more do you really want??? I'm not a talkative either but I'm sure I won't be having sex with my wife only three times a year. That's the only problem I see with this marriage. Coupled with you guys dating for just a month before getting married

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    1. Stanmarx are you for real? I hope you are not married and if you are, from now on let the only communication you have with your wife be only good morning and good afternoon; then come back in 2 weeks and tell us how it feels. Why do we like trivializing issues that are not directly affecting us without first putting ourselves in the same shoes with those going through it?

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    2. Stanmarx are you for real? I hope you are not married and if you are, from now on let the only communication you have with your wife be only good morning and good afternoon; then come back in 2 weeks and tell us how it feels. Why do we like trivializing issues that are not directly affecting us without first putting ourselves in the same shoes with those going through it?

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  2. He might as well be gay.u neva can tell.just married to fulfill all righteousness.

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    1. I thought so too. You just took the words outta my mouth.

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    2. I tot as much he could be gay and one month is too short for courtship to lead to marriage try to find out more abt ur man he is hiding a lot from u.

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  3. Please who gets married these days after just 1 month of dating. Even the Catholic Church has extended dating period from six months to one year. I will advice the lady to make deep research on her husband without his knowledge because for me I am looking at a little bit of mental case. I have an uncle who the family carried a lavish wedding for with a duplex and car as a wedding gift without the girl knowledge that he has little mental case.

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  4. @stanmarx,pls there is a big problem in that marriage. Just pray none of ur love ones should be in her shoes.thanks

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  5. My in-law discovered her hubby was gay. Check properly. Something else is taking his time.

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  6. My in-law discovered her hubby was gay. Check properly. Something else is taking his time.

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  7. @starmax if you dnt know what to say please shutup

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  8. Chaii, I can imagine how bored ur home has been,just put yourself together and try what Aunty has said

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