Friday, February 5, 2016

My Husband Doesn't Pray!

Dear my dearest aunty thank you for all you have been doing and am so sorry for the death of your father may his soul rest in peace.
Anuty please can you advice me on how to cope with a husband who has refused to pray with me, refused to even pray for himself and have stopped going to church.
It is giving me so much concern as the head of the family he is supposed to be a spiritual leader in my home. But rather he is not. For one year now I have not seen him pray to God, nor even go to church. Please advice me on what to do and God reward you abundantly Amen!

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.  Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.
1 Peter 3:1-6, 8-9 ESV
 This portion of the scriptures captured what I would suggest that you consider and trust the Holy spirit to give you the wisdom and the patience to instill in your marriage.
One of the greatest weapons of warfare in every family is prayers and that is one thing that the devil will fight to destroy so that he can render the foundation of your marriage useless. If he succeeds in weakening your faith and crippling his spiritual life, you and your family will be under the clutches of the devil.
This is why you should not relent in praying for him, with him and for your family. Yes he's meant to be the spiritual head of your family and your personal pastor. He's meant to be your high priest and the one who bears the ark of the covenant of your family.
But since he's not sensitive to his responsibilities and his spiritual duties to his family, please do not give up on your family nor be discouraged by his look warmness but in your closet, hold hands with him and pray with him, pray for him and when it's possible study God's word with him.
Prophesy into his life and declare good things in his life. Let him know that you are not deterred by his weaknesses nor will you give up on effective prayers for your family.
Do not confront him or attack him or insult him or say things that maybe hurting to him but humbly see this as a divine mandate to intercede for your family and your marriage.
Remember that you are one with him and part of him and one of the ways to help him stand is by standing where he may be weak or discouraged.
You are one with him and if you pray for him and seek the face of God concerning his life, heaven will be opened to you and all that you were seeking for will be granted to you in greater measures.
It's well with you and I know that you will overcome this phase of your marriage with prayers and intercession!


  1. I just hope you are not the reason why he has stopped doing all of that. Your attitude and behaviour can make your husband to lose interest in prayer or church things.

  2. Mr chika uzoma,nothing can discourage a genuine lover of God. No excuse whatsoever is acceptable for anyone to turn his or her back on God.mind you..heavenly race is individual and everyone will stand to give account on how their lives was spent here on earth.assuming he was asked why he deviated,will God buy the excuses or reasons
    you just pointed out????

  3. Thank you Agbaduru Blessing Amara, it's always about the woman being the cause or likely cause of something in a man's negative attitude and character. What about the other way round? My hubby has gone the same way unfortunately and he is one who knew God as a youngster now in his 50s. Not easy to deal with the fact that the only attraction into the marriage in the first place was spiritual consideration and suddenly that vanishes. GOD HELP US ALL.

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