Sunday, March 6, 2016

I'm Down, Please Help!

Please my sister needs help! I've been married for four years with two kids, dated my husband seven years before we got married in 2012. During courtship, he cheated on me and I always forgave him, it got to a stage I couldn't bear it so I decided to quit the relationship. I got another guy just then my ex boyfriend ( now husband) came pleading that he has changed and wanted to settle down, due to the love I had for him I explained to the new guy and he understood.
We got married ever since there was no problem until August last year when I saw a chat with one of his colleagues, I asked him and he said there was nothing between them, they still kept on chatting so I decided to delete her number, he restored it with another name.
Recently I noticed he visits her, eats in her place takes her out. Two days back she complained that there was no light and she was bored, my husband told her in their chat that that he would have taken her out but his car was not good, which was true. His car was faulty. They were now planning on how to buy a car which I know nothing of, I am hypertensive, I don't want to hear forget about him and face your kids, cos I have tried it and it's not working, am working and taking care of myself, but sincerely I need the love of a husband to be faithful, am down now. I have not spoken to him ever since I saw this chat, please aunty I need your advice.


Begin first by praying for him, seek the face of God on his behalf and intercede for him. Remember that a conscience that doesn't detest sin won't understand your pains nor your concerns about his infidelity to you. 
You may challenged him today and he will change his tactics and then continue in a manner that you can't detect. So the first thing you need to do is not to allow the burden and pains of his infidelity to shut you down but give it up to God and patiently allow him to work in the life and the heart of your husband. 
After praying for him, call him and prepare a great meal for him, pet him and celebrate him. Let the atmosphere be so memorable that he would be surprised and worried why you decided to pamper him in such a manner. When he's done, then open up and pour your heart to him in a peaceful and calm manner. 
Always remember that who you are fighting against is never your husband but the devil so shouting, fighting and attacking him may only make him feel remorseful but may never repent from his attitude to infidelity. 
Let him know that why his infidelity hurts you bitterly, you are only doing this to help him reap the rewards of being married and to tap from divine favour of God. Let him know that you have chosen to use your knees and never to attack him or anyone else. 
He may choose to change her name and then change his plans but he will never hide his personality from God and that you will allow God to fight this battle for you while you patiently trust in Him. 
On your part, please protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections and occasionally go for a HIV test with him for your safety and health of your children. 
Insist on the use of protection during sex and do not relent in praying for him. 
Since you knew of his weaknesses before you got married to him and you believed in his personality even when you knew that he had appetite for infidelity, I can only encourage you to pray and also engage in discussing these with him to find out ways to help him overcome his weaknesses by the grace of God. 
Remember that your health and peace of mind is priceless and irrespective of what you maybe going through in your marriage today, it is never beyond the healing hands of God. Please let it off your chest and hand it over to God who knows beyond your imagination and can help him overcome infidelity.

2 comments:

  1. Please bear in mind that if you die as a result of your worries, he will quickly get married to another woman whom may or may not care about your kids. Get down on your knees and do not worry. Let God fight for you . A word is enough for the wise.

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  2. Please bear in mind that if you die as a result of your worries, he will quickly get married to another woman whom may or may not care about your kids. Get down on your knees and do not worry. Let God fight for you . A word is enough for the wise.

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