He has always told me he wanted to marry me but things have not been working out well with him financially. I am an independent person, I take care of myself well without bothering him but my sisters and friends feels it's not right that a man must be responsible enough to take care of his girl's needs. I agree with them but he doesn't really have.
The problem is TIME IS NOT ON MY SIDE ANYMORE AND THE THOUGHT OF STARTING A NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE ELSE SCARES ME A LOT. Am so scared I don't want to try at all. What do I do? I saw him today after so many months and it felt so good to see him again, he pleaded with me not to leave him but always pray for him.
Aunty Amara please I need your advice on what to do, am confused but I know I love him and he feels same way too.
What efforts has he been making to be responsible to himself and to prepare himself for marriage? I understand that he doesn't have enough and that he's praying for a financial breakthrough but gospel truth is that money doesn't fall to those who pray alone but to those who pray and go under the sun to work and provide solutions to the needs of millions around him no matter how little it may be.
Eight years is a huge time for a man to be guessing and gallivanting while seeking for prayers and more time. I am not against you waiting for him if you so wish to but you must prepare your mind for the inevitable which includes, helping him to find means of living and in a situation where he's unable to meet up with the demands of his responsibilities, you will also need to do the needful to cover him up.
You also may need to provide the funds that he would need to start a family with you while you also provide for the upkeep of your home.
But if he's hawking for example and making one thousand per day, I'm certain that God will touch the heart of an individual to bless him and encourage him. What God blesses is the work of our hands and not how much we spent praying for a breakthrough.
If in all sincerity your partner isn't certain about what life entails and he's not yet ready to leave his comfort zone and strive to do something different, well you maybe hanging out with a man who may leave you with many regrets than he would give you much reasons to smile.
While some relationships maybe exceptionally beautiful, not all of such relationship do end in marriage, being able to isolate feelings from the realities of your journey will greatly help you in making a wise decision on what's best for you at this point in your life.
Dear poster,
ReplyDeletePlease find out what his passions are. Help him to harness them. Encourage him and give him certain financial tasks with subtle pressures and always point out to him that you would never marry a poor man! Above all, put him in your prayers by asking God to bless him through any means either by hard work or through ideas and dreams. Its well with you both.
Dear poster,
ReplyDeletePlease find out what his passions are. Help him to harness them. Encourage him and give him certain financial tasks with subtle pressures and always point out to him that you would never marry a poor man! Above all, put him in your prayers by asking God to bless him through any means either by hard work or through ideas and dreams. Its well with you both.