Friday, April 22, 2016

He Doesn't want me to Complete my Education!

Please ma I need your advice, I met this guy almost four years ago and we are planning of introduction next month and wedding by December God's willing but the problem is that he doesn't wants me to complete my education.
I did diploma and I applied for Direct Entry this year and he's telling me that my parent are asking him whether he's going to further my education and that he doesn't want what they are saying about my education, that what if he says marriage or school which one will I choose? Please ma help me


No matter how rich a man maybe, it is necessary for every lady to equip herself with every knowledge, skills and vocational courses that will make her support her husband and also meet up with the demands of your marriage.
Circumstances may alter a very lovely marriage and if you weren't prepared for that, may end up begging and seeking for help. So please do not compromise on anything that will enhance your personality and help you become independent and productive in your life and marriage.
If I were in your shoes, I will choose both education and marriage because I need education to help him when his chips are down and because I love him, I definitely would love to grow in love with him. But you know better than I do what you need, however do not rush into marriage without adequately discussing this with him and reaching an agreement with him so that you don't get married to him and get disappointed with him.
If he's not willing to at least permit you and also support you in your desire to excel academically, please encourage him to give you some time so that you can advance in your studies before getting married to him, that way you won't have to depend on him to support you but your family will be the one to provide your basic needs and help you become a better lady before getting married to the man of your heart desire.

5 comments:

  1. Your partner should be someone that shld encouraged u to improve on urself for ur future & day of ur home. He should help u to be a better person & also excel so discuss with him & choose education & marriage, with a diploma u are aware of value of education & skills to enable u support ur future. So be wise.

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  2. Your partner should be someone that shld encouraged u to improve on urself for ur future & day of ur home. He should help u to be a better person & also excel so discuss with him & choose education & marriage, with a diploma u are aware of value of education & skills to enable u support ur future. So be wise.

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  3. He has told u to choose, so u bera choose. U are not married to him yet,choose while u still can. There's no rush. Ur husband should encourage n uplift u not dwindle you. If u will b happy to stay at home or 'open shop' then go ahead

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  4. Better equip your self because it is this same man that will tell you how useless u are to him in less than 6months from now.
    Do not let him do any introduction and then wait for u to finish schooling in your father's house.
    Ask him to wait since he does not luv u enough to take you through school.
    Trust me you will find a better person than him before you are done with ur academics.
    I am a banker and my husband is practically begging me to come and study Law, that he likes it and ur so called bobo is trying to pull you back.
    Tufiakwa...we get different kinds of men o o .
    Nne trade carefully cos marriage is not a do or die affair.

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  5. Better equip your self because it is this same man that will tell you how useless u are to him in less than 6months from now.
    Do not let him do any introduction and then wait for u to finish schooling in your father's house.
    Ask him to wait since he does not luv u enough to take you through school.
    Trust me you will find a better person than him before you are done with ur academics.
    I am a banker and my husband is practically begging me to come and study Law, that he likes it and ur so called bobo is trying to pull you back.
    Tufiakwa...we get different kinds of men o o .
    Nne trade carefully cos marriage is not a do or die affair.

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