Thursday, July 21, 2016

Is it Appropriate for Married Couples to Watch Pornography?

Good day Mrs Amara. Is pornography a sin? If yes, where is it in the Bible? Also is it appropriate for married couples to watch pornography, even when one party sees it as sin, and the other sees it as a way of improving sexual intercourse?

Let's start by defining pornography. Pornography is beholding or watching any content of two adults who are having sexual intercourse with each other, or pictures of sexual content or beholding the nakedness of an individual. 
This is the first time the Bible recorded about nakedness and it came with a curse.
Noah began to be a man of the soil, and he planted a vineyard. He drank of the wine and became drunk and lay uncovered in his tent. And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father and told his two brothers outside. Then Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and walked backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned backward, and they did not see their father's nakedness. When Noah awoke from his wine and knew what his youngest son had done to him, he said, "Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants shall he be to his brothers." He also said, "Blessed be the Lord , the God of Shem; and let Canaan be his servant. May God enlarge Japheth, and let him dwell in the tents of Shem, and let Canaan be his servant."
Genesis 9:20‭-‬27 ESV

But this was the perfect description of pornography in the Bible as recorded in the book of Samuel. 
It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king's house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful.
2 Samuel 11:2 ESV
From these two cited books in the Bible, it's obvious that pornography is a sin to God, to man and to self.

Now in marriage, we know that there are coupes who have sexual challenges like low sexual libido or sex drive, inexperienced partners who lack the skills and the creativity to enhance their sexual performance in their marriage, and those who have some psychological and emotional struggles that may have a negative impact on their sex life.
There are some visual aid that maybe pornographic in nature that is designed to educate couples and help them maximise their sexual intercourse and become better off during sex. 
Such videos are quite different from the normal pornography that is dramatised to create a wrong impression of sex and sexual fulfilment. 
So as a couple, there are helpful visual contents that are good for your marriage, however the purpose must be to strengthen your sexual intimacy and grow in understanding how to meet the sexual needs of your partner and not necessarily to arouse self or indirectly compare your partner with  porn stars.
If your husband is experiencing difficulties with achieving erection as a result of some psychological or emotional challenges, maybe seeing a visual aid may be helpful to revive his sexual appetite and enhance his sexual performance. In that case, just maybe it is permissible. 
But if he's really having difficulty with sex, maybe you should encourage him to write to me here, or consult with a sex therapist or an urologist to examine him and find out what may be wrong with his sexual performance.


  1. Good advice ma, I know of a couple who made use of these visual aid and sex books when they just got married bcos they were both believers and virgins and after 2 years of marriage, they dispose all sex aids and books, so I think some churches encourage it too cos sex can sometimes make or mar marriages too, as for me I hate porns, its not good at all bcos they pass wrong informations.

  2. Please ma,does tribe matter in relationship


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