Thursday, August 4, 2016

He Seems to be Playing with Girls Over There.

Good morning Aunty Amara,
My name is C**
I been in a relationship for five years, my man is 47 years and 25 years... He lives in Europe and I live in Ghana ... When I met him, he was living with a white woman but later divorced her and now living separately in his own apartment ... I do talk with him on IMO, VIBER, and WhatsApp every blessed day .... I love him but he seems to be playing around with girls over there.
 He sent me a photograph of himself in his car one day and I asked him "who took the picture for him?" and he told me it was a male friend but later when zooming the picture to have a close look, I saw a lady's image showing on the car. When I questioned him about it, he told me he is sorry he lied, that it's a female friend he knows that took the picture for him...
Aunty I live in his house in Ghana here, I manage his business here in Ghana but he is not married to me. He promised to come and marry me this September, but Aunty whenever I talked about coming with him to Europe he tell me to be patient, he gives dates and keeps changing it.
Now I noticed a black Ethiopian woman visits him and when I questioned him about it, he told me he is a man and he need someone to have sex with at times... I tried to break the relationship with him but he called my parents and told them he will come and marry me and take me to Europe ...
Aunty Amara I don't know what to do now, please help me with your advice.


Personally I can't do the job of a private investigator and more painful that you're doing this job at the detriment of your life, happiness and freedom. 
At 25 years of age, you deserve a man who is emotionally available for a relationship, a man who is at least fairly faithful to you, and a man who respects your personality and feelings.
Living in his house when you're not married to him is as good as being a slave to his riches and his place of residence. I don't feel that you're doing yourself any favour by hiding in his business and riches while he's busy with Ethiopian women in Europe. 
As far as your mail is concerned, you are dealing with a stranger you can't tell what he's up to, who he is and what he want from you or the relationship. Calling your dad and telling him how he intends to marry you once he's back is not enough reason for you to lose your conscience to the obvious flaws in his life. 
He's not committed to the relationship, not comfortable with you, not willing to take you to Europe (that's if you mistakenly gets married to him), he's not faithful and honest to you, and you can't even tell who he is and what he's doing with his life or the relationship, so why not review the relationship and advice yourself?
Or are you worried that if you don't get married to him, you won't have the opportunity to travel to Europe or receive pounds from him? 
At your age, you deserve something better than this, you deserve a companion, a friend, a confidant, an honest and sincere partner and a man who is emotionally, psychologically and spiritually committed to the relationship. 
This to me is synonymous to time wasting and the earlier you wake up from this endless promises, the better for you and your future.

2 comments:

  1. It's his money he got that attract the love u have for him .and on this part u are tending u are on a long tin. he understand u are young and still timid that y his using u for his business n promising u marriage

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  2. It's his money he got that attract the love u have for him .and on this part u are tending u are on a long tin. he understand u are young and still timid that y his using u for his business n promising u marriage

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