Wednesday, August 24, 2016

I Just Hate Any Man I See Around Me.

Ma, I have been in a relationship with a guy for four years. We started planning to get married, paid everything, did all the necessary things and waiting for wedding date. He started behaving somehow, I asked him what is happening, his response was nothing.
His mum and dad separated for like fourteen years,
after series of negotiations to settle them she refused, and during those years his dad met with my cousin and they were dating, but after some time my cousin got married and she has four children with the man. While his dad and mum settled and came back together, but in less than a year he died, and that was around 2004. And I met him 2012.
When we started, I never knew of anything that happened like that, but he knew and he later told me, and that it is not an issue to him so we were still moving like that. I never knew that his mother was not happy about it until when the wedding was close she started showing it.
First, she called me to come and pack some of the things that was inside the boxes we bought for the wedding. I went and after some time she said I should carry the boxes too because cold is disturbing them that he will buy new ones before the wedding.
I then called him and told him I don't need the boxes. I never knew that she was not in support, because the mother once said that he must not wed in the church because she and his dad did church wedding and it did not last, so we should go too so that if it did not work we can part too. He is very close to the mother, the mother controls him, and anything the mother says is always final.
The aunty asked if I knew he was into another relationship, that the mum was aware and she told his aunty and the aunty asked me if I am aware that he's into another relationship, I said am not that his mother told her.
I then called him and asked, he said nothing like that and that he's not into any relationship but not up to three weeks a friend called and told me that he called her and told her that he impregnated a lady, and that she's in the house already. Up until now he did not tell me anything about his marriage. The lady gave birth June this year.
Ma, since then I have been confused, I have not been able to concentrate and put myself together, and I just hate any man I see around me. And he's sending messages to me from time to time, even yesterday he sent messages to me because he knows I don't pick his calls.



You are too beautiful to allow anyone to make you feel bitter and resentment all the days of your life. You may feel pained and betrayed by his attitude but what you don't know is that God actually saved you from getting married to a bouncing baby boy man who had no word of his own, choice of his own and vision for his life.
According to you, it was his mother that dictates what happens to him and perhaps it was his mother's engineering that gave birth to the baby that he has today.
Though he promised to marry you and was on the verge of doing so, his actions reveals that he's comfortable with his present lady and I will suggest that you stop monitoring his life and activities and move on with your life.
You need to forgive him from the depth of your heart, accept that this was a good relationship that wasn't good enough for a lifetime, and move on trusting God who sees beyond every disappointment and knows the desires of your heart to bless you with your own husband.
Every man is not the same, and please do not see every man as though he's your ex, open your heart to friendship and allow time to heal your pains so that you can love again and be happy with your partner.
I will encourage you move on with your life and forget about the past relationship, that is the only way for you to put yourself together, and meet a man who is emotionally prepared, and psychologically stable for relationship, not an old baby boy.

2 comments:

  1. I pity the lady in his house presently,you should rather go to Church for thanksgiving.Please,don't hate man because you may not see the right man when he shows up.Thanks.

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  2. LOL,BOUNCING BABY MAN INDEED, EVEN IF YOU MARRY THE GUY,THE MUM WILL BE THE ONE CONTROLING YOUR HOME, WHY NOT SEE IT HAS A DELIVERANCE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE, YOUR LATTER DAYS WILL BE MORE BEAUTIFUL DEAR,IT IS WELL WITH YOUR SOUL

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