Friday, January 13, 2017

I'm Emotionally Drained.

Good evening Amara, I'm J** by name, married with three kids, although the first isn't for my hubby, had him in my teens. 
I met my hubby in 2002 in Absu, although he didn't finish but I did. We dated for almost ten years and got married in 2011, na here wahala start.
At first I thought it was a mistake but no, if he is not hitting, he is demoralizing me emotionally. 
Before I took in in 2013, it was one problem or the other, I got pregnant and the problem escalated. My first pregnancy for him in marriage was rough especially the first four months, and I was just too lazy to work or keep the house clean and he capitalized on it and sold me out to his people that I was lazy which was a confirmation by the dad because he said whenever I visit while we were still dating, his dad said I don't do house chores. I didn't know he made this statement till after I was married. 
My issue is E*** is so immature, any small issue either he wants to beat me up or he calls my parents to tell them to come take their daughter, that he is no more interested. Sister I can't put into writing all I've been going through, financially I've helped and provided more than he has, yet when he has money and we have a fight he withholds cash, in fact he cooks the food we eat, he goes to the market and buys food stuff, or is it him telling me he is horny that he will pay me for sex that he wants to have. 
He has cheated so many times and I forgave him, the first and second house rent after marriage was paid by my parents, he didn't have a job and I didn't too. Got a job after we married  and he started complaining that I was coming back late, it was a hotel where I was the chief cook, I stopped because I had to go for my masters which I finally concluded last year.
Financially he hasn't been of help, but he doesn't appreciate my little efforts especially in area of finance, even though I don't work because of the program I went for. He insults me and my family especially my mum who has been of immense help financially to him, us and me. 
All this write up is that I want to just go somewhere, in fact if I can leave Lagos I don't mind, to clear my head. I just rented a shop in November, no financial help from him oh. I need your advice, so many episodes that I can't put down. I have locked him up before because he beat me and I was two months pregnant for my last baby whom he told me to abort because he categorically said his girlfriend was pregnant and he wasn't ready to father two children at that time. He beat me to a point I started bleeding until it stopped at four months. 
I'm emotionally drained. I have asked God what is happening, what I should do but everywhere is silent. Please advice. Thanks.

It's time for you to take a break from your marriage, you really need some time to meditate and examine all you have been through in your marriage. 
You need some time with yourself and your maker to help you decide the best way to resolve the challenges in your marriage or maybe decide what's best for you at this point in your marriage. 
Living with a man who constantly abuse you physically and emotionally can bring out the worst in you, and may affect you psychologically and mentally. 
I believe that separation will help both of you work on the differences in your marriage and perhaps help you decide whether to continue with the marriage or to move on with your life.

1 comment:

  1. Hey!I was in a relationship for quite along time almost 7 years, he cheated with a girl almost 11 years younger than him I took him back because I love him so much. He promised me the world never to leave me never to let me go to make me happy and to make it up to me everyday. 7 weeks later he has broke up with me after a few arguments .. he told me he can’t do it that I’ve ruined everything I deserve it all I’ve treated him bad he gave up his job overseas but he only gave it a week afrer he quit. he has left me in bits and is 1 week later out with other girls please help I don’t know what to do he is telling me he will never ever get back its over and he will never give it a go I have begged and I don’t know why I don’t no why he has done this to me I feel so lifeless… one day in my office going through the internet i saw a post of a lady giving testimony on how she got her husband back,i also come across a blog site on how to reunite and get your ex back with a love spell it was really amazing to see this so i copy his email id on i explain my situation to him and gave him all the details he requested from me, he give me 3 days assurance that my boyfriend will come back after the spell i was so overwal to hear that so i just keep calm and follow up his order coz i really love my boyfriend and want him back. on the third day after the spell as he promise me, my ex call me also show up in my office begging me to forgive him and accept him back with out no delay, i lift him up with a kiss and was so very happy to have him back all my happiness was from Dr happy he is indeed a true man a father and a god sent. plz contact Dr happy on his email id direct at or call his mobile number on +2348133873774


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