Wednesday, January 11, 2017

I'm Losing Interest in our Relationship?

Good afternoon ma,  I really appreciate you for your good deeds, I pray God to give you more wisdom to do his work. Ma I've been in a relationship for five years now. 
Two years ago he met my parents and gave them drink and made his intentions
known to them that he will like to marry me, but since then nothing has been done. 
Even though I understand that he does not have a steady job, he's into interior (painting and screading**) which does not come always, but there was no much effort and seriousness made. 
Ma the issue now is that I'm losing interest in the whole thing because whenever there is no job for as long as it maybe, he falls back to me, I will be the one to be giving him money etc. while he just stay there and do nothing pending when they will call him for a painting job or so.  
I feel if I get married to him I will be the one struggling more just to make ends meet and I don't want that kind of life or marriage. Besides he's not a graduate that one will say someday he might get a job. Even when he has money, he prefers to spend more outside just to give people the impression that he's a big boy but he's a nice person.  
Please I need your candid advice.  Thanks and God bless you.

I'm pretty worried why he couldn't do anything three years after declaring his intentions to marry you. 
In the present economic downturn, one cannot rely on one job or be so relaxed that he can't do something else to make ends meet. 
Perhaps you should sit down with him and have a heart to heart discussion with him, let him know how you feel about everything, recommend something he can do to support his skills. Give him some ideas and allow him to decide which is best for him. 
If he doesn't have any vision or plans for the relationship, I feel that it's time for you to tell yourself the basic truth and move on with your life.

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