Aunty Amara, please I need your advice on this because I'm really depressed and don't know what to do again.
My husband keeps calling his ex on every daily basis, and he chats with her on Facebook and Whatsapp.
Apart from that, he chat with girls on Facebook and it's always an intimate text about sex and all that.
So anytime I go through his phone, it really breaks my heart and the worst is that he doesn't care how I feel about it.
Please Aunty Amara I need your advice on this.
Thanks.
I don't know if you have talked to him about this, but I will suggest that you sit down with him and iron this out.
If your husband loves you, he wouldn't decide to make marriage miserable to you by constantly and carelessly doing those things that hurt you and breaks your heart.
And should he continue with such attitude, it will only be safe for you to consider engaging with his family to find a lasting solution to his attitude to you.
To help you, I will suggest that you minimize your rate of checking his phone, not because you don't have the right to but to help you have some sanity and happiness in yourself.
Most times whenever you read the chat of a cheating partner, you are crushing your self esteem, provoking yourself unnecessarily, and always living in fear of what you will discover in his phone.
If after exploring all available options to address this issue, he's unable to make amends, you may then decide whether you wish to continue with him or consider separating from him.
Please woman, is you husband a jobless man that he does nothing other than communicating with his ex girl friend every day on phone, Facebook and whats-app. do you sit with him all day and night for you to notice that he is chatting romantically with his Ex? or are you just exaggerating because you see his massage ones(which i bet is just an ordinary massage). just because it is to his Ex that is why you killing yourself. However, i believe he is not chatting with his ex everyday as you alleged and even if he does chat with her occasionally, it should be an ordinary chat which we all do to our friends. Just because he has married you does not mean he should hate his past girl friends(except the past relation has a very bad ending before you came in). i will advice you not to heat up your marriage which your doing now, his ex is not your problem, either are you his ex problem, please stop making his his ex your problem.
ReplyDeletewe all have ex that we do cross part at times in life, their is nothing bad in asking about how they are doing in life or seeking advice from each other(which the women do most time than the men). if his ex is that important to him, why did he marry you instead of her or did you snatch him with pregnancy from his ex?......YOU ARE TALKING AS IF YOU DO NOT HAVE EX, IT IS ONLY WHEN YOU MESS-UP WITH YOUR EX AND HE SEE A REAL EVIDENCE OF SUCH INFERTILITY WITH YOUR EX, THAT YOU WILL KNOW THE MAN YOU MARRIED.
THE ADVICE YOU NEED IS THAT IT MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU THINK IT IS BUT SINCE YOU HAVE TURN FBI/CIA IN HIS PHONE, KEEP IT UP UNTIL YOU DESTROY YOUR LOVELY MARRIAGE FOR NO REASON.
EX, EX, EX, NOTHING MEN NO GO FACE FOR MARRIAGE. THAT IS WHY GET MARRIAGE IS PISSING ME UP.