Friday, November 3, 2017

He's Stingy, But I Love Him!

Hello greetings all, I have been dating this guy for a long time now(2012 till date). We started dating when he was doing his clearance in school, while I was in second year..
The relationship has been moving fine but my problem with this guy is that he's very stingy. I know he doesn't have enough but the little he has is very difficult to give, even to the extent of asking him for recharge card, he will bluntly tell me no,  that he doesn't give ladies things,  I had to ignore him an stop begging.. Lol..
This guy is naturally stingy, but I love him, ooh yes I love to the extent that even when I try to pull myself out from him, I find it very difficult to do it..
If he's this stingy while we are still dating, how will marriage look like? Even though he has not proposed to me.
Few months ago I called him to really know his mind towards me since he doesn't want to propose, at least let me know my stand (I needed him to define the relationship). So when I asked him, his response was "I'm not his girlfriend, that what again do I want to hear... Hmmm..(someone I have been dating for years now) I was shocked so out of annoyance I told him since am just his girlfriend that am no more interested in the relationship and I dropped the call.
Few weeks later he called and started begging me, that he is sorry for everything that happened, that he intentionally left me for some weeks to calm down before he can talk to me..
That I should give him chance, that he want things to happen naturally and he's coming back this Christmas maybe when he comes back, we can discuss more about it.. I said OK.
So since that last incident he stopped calling me unlike before, and everything about him have changed.. Am really confused right now, and I am not getting any younger, I am 28 years. 
Please I need your help, your advice on what to do right now.. Please advice me. Thanks

To start with, he's simply wasting your time, and I can bet that he will never be serious or committed to you. 
Secondly, if he's this stingy, it only points one fact, which is that he doesn't value your personality well enough to invest his time or resources in your life. 
The question is, do you value yourself? If you do, then you won't be in love with an individual who doesn't value your presence in his life 
Thirdly, why make yourself an open room where you accommodate his kind of personality? Can't you see that he's simply playing with your emotion? 
Being old is not a problem, begging to be loved, and accepting trash in the name of love is a huge problem for any individual. 
You either decide today to put an end to such rubbish, or you expose yourself to his emotional manipulation and abuse. 

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