Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Should I Marry Him or Wait for Another Man?

Good afternoon ma, please I really need your advice. Am 31, I met this guy that wants to marry me but the problem is that am scared of what the future holds for both of us cos he's not a graduate but he is the struggling type that works contract work.
My fear is that what if I marry him and he can't take care of me. But I really love him and he adores me and love me too, but am scared what should I do? Should I go ahead and leave the future in God's hands or should I forget about the marriage. What if I don't get some one this soon? Please I need your advice.

The future of every home rests in the hands of two responsible individuals who are mentally, financially, and psychologically prepared to take responsibilities for their decision hoping on God to favour the works of their hands. 
If your partner is making genuine efforts and his efforts is yielding positive results, you can as well think of ways you can support him by being industrious and productive so that even when your husband doesn't have so much, you can support him in your own little way. 
Getting married to a man who have sufficient resources doesn't in any way guarantee that he will provide all you need to build your home, and you should not go into marriage expecting your husband to provide everything you need. 
If a man can work hard and provide part of the family's needs, a woman can also work hard to provide part of her children's need or her own needs, and at the same time reduce the pressure on the man.
Look inward and ask yourself how you hope to help him build a home that both of you will be proud of. Think of ways to cut down the cost of starting off a new home, and what you can do to equip yourself so that you can supplement the efforts of your partner. 
But if you feel that you can't grow with him, please let him know and move on with your life.
There is nothing beyond God's capacity, and you shouldn't lose focus on what is most important to you at this point as a result of temporary circumstance in his life. No condition of human endeavors is permanent, same is his financial limitation.

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