Thursday, June 1, 2017

Should I Accept Him or Continue with my Boyfriend?

Good day ma, please advice me on this... I have been dating this guy for the past two years. I know he loves me unconditionally, I can even swear it but I don't feel the same way.
I stayed in the relationship because I don't want to hurt him. I never cheated even though he's not financially okay, he can't even take care of me at all.
Now there is another guy asking me out, he is from my village and says he must marry his village girl, he is doing okay but has a son before. The son is in Abuja with his sister. Please ma should I accept him or continue with my boyfriend?

Why will you keep a man in perpetual bondage and misery all because you want to enjoy his attention? Why allow him invest his emotions and time in you when in the innermost part of your heart you may never marry him? You claimed that you have never cheated on him but what you are doing is like a woman who is with a husband and is still looking for a husband. 
One month to one year is enough for you to decide what to do with a relationship, and if you are convinced that he's not the kind of man you desire, the noble thing to do is quit the relationship. 
So to start with, since you don't really see a future with your boyfriend, please let him know the truth and move on with your life. 
As for the second man, I feel that his attraction may not be about your personality but about your origin. If he's getting married to you because you are from his village, what will happen if you don't have those virtues he desires in a lady? Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to take care of his son as yours? Are you sure that there are no ties to his ex? Are you attracted to his personality or to his pocket? 
Material things are temporary including wealth, and it takes a moment for God to change the story of an individual. Don't make your decision based on the things you see, but make your decision based on the virtue and qualities that will sustain your marriage for a lifetime. 
Draw closer to God, don't be in a hurry to accept anyone based on what you think or even feel, instead let your decision be based on your innermost convictions.

1 comment:

  1. If you know you are not ready for a relationship why get into one and still cheat and liar. I and my wife has been married for some years now,Lately she has been hiding her phone from me and keeping Late nights. I was curious about her cheating on me.I had no proof and no one to run to.I contacted a Private investigator who linked me up with Mr James( via email.He understood me well and helped me spy on my cheating wife.He gave me the password to my wife's Gmail and Facebook account and linked all my spouse WhatsApp and phone conversation to me, to find out the truth. He showed me proof of work and I just want to openly say thank you. Contact him today if you need help.


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