Avoid Evil Counsel in Your Relationship

I see people call friends and family members to seek their opinion on marital and other life issues. A woman picks up her phone to ask a man or woman what he thinks about her husband. A man picks up his phone to know what another woman or man thinks about his issues with his wife.


You are deceiving yourself because it can only take a heart that is touched by God to tell you the truth you need to know. Many are jealous of your home; always have this in mind. Many wish you evil even when you call them friends and they act to be one. Many can't wait to see that your marriage crumble. You laugh, wine, and dine with them, but their hearts are evil towards you. All they will offer you are advice to

My Mum is Having an Affair with Her Friend's Husband.

Good day aunty Amara, help me with this issue on my neck. I'm a 20 years old girl, first child of my mum, but second child of my dad. My dad is currently married to two women with my mum being the first. 
Recently, I found out

My Mum Will be Hurt if I Leave my Marriage.

Good morning Aunty Amara, please advice me on what to do please. I love my husband a lot and he's been cheating on me despite all the love and gifts I showers on him he still cheats. I have listened to so many call records he has on his phone with so many ladies. My husband will promise me he will never cheat or betray me and tell me to do same which I always promise him as well. Most times if I lay my hands and

My Parents Suggested that I Return to My Ex.

I met A** January 2013 through a friend, they both work in the same company. He collected my number from me, after some days he called me and asked me to be his wife, that he is not getting any younger, he was 34 years old and I was 27 years old. I accepted, he returned from work on the 14th of February 2013, Val's day,

My Parents is Against Wedding in Anglican Church.

Good day Aunty Amara, does religion really matters in terms of marriage. Am a Catholic and the man that wants to marry me is an Anglican, and he wants us to wed in Anglican.
For me, I don't see a problem with that, but my parents is against

His Family and Wife are Frustrating my Efforts to get Residence Permit.

I met this guy years ago, he lives abroad, he told me he was processing divorce from his white wife. He was separated, he invited me for one month, we stayed together in his house, before I left I was pregnant. His family came for traditional rights and we got an apartment waiting for him to finish the divorce as he told me it'll be due in some months.

Should I Raise a Family and Forget about School?

Good evening ma.
I am writing you this mail with confused thoughts and mind.
I need you advice or should I rather say your expert opinion on this. It's not a relationship matter.
I am 33 years. I finished my National Diploma in 2006,

My Dad is Against Conducting Traditional and White Wedding on the Same Day.

Good morning ma, thanks for all your wonderful work you are doing in people's life and I pray God will bless you....
Please ma I need an urgent reply. Please ma I did my introduction last week and preparing to do my white and traditional wedding the same day, but the problem now is that my dad is saying he can't go to the guy's village for white

Do I Follow Whatever my Mother-in-law Says?

My wedding clocked three months yesterday.... I am married to a man who was once married but the woman is late now, she died during her first child birth and I got married to the man exactly one year and ten months of the incident.

The Man and His Penis!

I invested so much time and passion to understand this organ that makes every man as proud and as confident as many ladies perceive them. 
My findings are revealing, amazing, and somewhat hilarious, but I will be as honest and sincere as possible.

From birth, every male shows some attributes that make you know indeed that 'it's in him'. If you have ever seen a baby boy urinating, it's like where security operatives are shooting enemies, it comes out with so much force and then forming a curve like a mountain. That's a man you know.. Lol 

The two most important aspects of men are the pocket and the penis. When a man does not have money, he feels cold but when he can't perform sexually, he's completely finished. 
For your sake, lets explore the penis, help you appreciate it, know how to maximise the penis, and help your husband enjoy sexual intercourse. 
No man jokes with his penis, no matter how poor or irresponsible he might be and man's greatest concern is satisfying his partner sexually and making her realize that he's the king of the jungle and the only man who can make his partner scream and moan with great pleasure. 

One of men's concerns about the penis is the size. Some men feel inadequate because of the opinions that a man with a small penis or a short penis cannot satisfy his partner sexually. But the truth is that every size of the penis can satisfy every lady as long as he knows how to maximise his organ, strike the right position and angle,  and give his partner a compassionate sexual experience. 

There are many pharmaceutical companies advertising that penis size can be enlarged with some drugs, tools or surgery. Well I can categorically tell you that it is not true. This is because the size of the penis is genetically determined and what surgeries can do is draw more skin to the penis and make it appear tall or big but cannot add to the length of the penis when erect by any means or measure. So there's no need to worry about your size, it's factory fitted and it can work wonders if you can put your mind to making the best use of your organ. 

Another thing that gives men sleepless night is satisfying their partner without giving her reasons to complain and worry about their sexual prowess. I have seen some men wonder if ladies enjoy sex(yes they do, amen), I have also seen men complain that their wives demand more sex and they're not comfortable with it. And believe me, men don't like to hear that their performance was anything short of woow or the best. 
Why do men worry about performance?  It's because great sex boost their ego and makes them feel on top of the world, great sex gives men great joy and will make them feel fulfilled and motivated to carry out anything he wishes to do. 
Great sex makes men generous (lol.. so true though), when he has deposited those 'stuff', and he has reached orgasm, he can part with his world just to be with you. 

So how can you get your man to enjoy sex with you and make him feel like the man? 
You can do this by complimenting your husband, appreciating his little efforts, supporting him and giving him reasons to look forward to being with you. While men are aroused by what they see, they're motivated and inspired by what you say and how you approach him. 
Men have a baby heart and they listen to everything that you say(they sulk more), so if your husband doesn't last longer in the bed, it's possible that you have been feeding him with so many negative information about himself and his performance. 
If you nag at your husband, verbally washes him down, please don't expect that he will satisfy you sexually because psychologically he won't be motivated to give in his best to sex. 

Quick ejaculation is not a taboo like the society has made it look, every man experienced quick ejaculation at one point or the other in his life and it's completely normal and can be worked on. While it can have a medical undertone which I will address in my next article on this, most times it's as a result of psychological factors such as over excitement and lack of self control during sexual intercourse. 
When a man experiences quick ejaculation, the worst thing to do as his wife is to complain or nag about it, this is because no man ever prays to be as epileptic as the power supply in Nigeria or desires to frustrate you by reaching orgasm before you wake up from your thoughts. 
Instead of nagging him down, please pamper him, let him have the best of your body, your breast, and remind him that you are proud of him and enjoyed him, even though you might be feeling angry within (you just need to help his Ben Johnson). 
Massaging his ego, encouraging him and pampering him will reduce the refractive time (this is the time it takes the penis to rest and then get aroused for action), and also boost his esteem to give you quality sexual intimacy. 

Another concern about performance is in the duration of sexual intercourse. Pornography has painted a very destructive picture of performance in the mind of many and this has made many individuals to feel that if a man doesn't last for thirty minutes to two hours, he hasn't performed well sexually. The truth is that performance is not dependent solely on how long partners spend pouncing on each other but on how well both of you enjoyed sexual intimacy and were able to meet your sexual needs as couples selflessly. 
I will refrain from giving you some time range that is considerate to avoid using it as a yardstick to judge your partner's performance and as a tool for comparison. But simply have it at the back of your mind that great sex is not entirely a function of time but a function of your communication skills, your emotional connection and your devotion to giving each other quality sexual experience. 

The greatest tool for partners to enjoy sex and sexual intimacy is not drugs, it's not pornography, it's not about the size or the shape of the body but COMMUNICATION! 
Partners who talk about sex, who share their intimate secrets about their bodies, who selflessly play and admire each other's body, who celebrate each other and and physically express their affection with each other, enjoy sex much more than those who feel that sex should not be discussed.
Communication helps men to appreciate their penis and perform better and at the same time connect with their partner. Communication boost his esteem and makes him look forward to giving his wife quality sex. 
When you complain that he's always demanding for sex, he's always good for sex, and all you do is nag, complain and condemn him, and make him feel sexually frustrated, please don't be surprised if he goes outside to seek for sexual fulfilment. 
Let me tell you this secret about men, sex is irreplaceable in their life and nothing else comes close to quality sexual intimacy in their life, this is what made me to give the penis my own customised name as "the centre of gravity" of every man.
Men, hope I spoke your mind?.. Lol. 
Share your thoughts with me.

Love or Abuse?

Deceit is when you admire other beautiful women who are well put together but lie to your wife that you love her haggard self. You know what you are doing. It's either you don't want to spend money on her or you are too low in self-esteem that you believe she will follow other men once she dresses well or goes out. The very moment she steps out of the house, you become a call center and God save her if she fails to answer her phone. From work you call her and the poor woman was famished and needed some rest, the master quickly concludes that she is with another man. She's not even allowed to give men a handshake.

You monitor her calls and social media pages and she's not allowed to see yours. You are on social media enjoying with her fellow women but ordered her to quit. You are simply a wicked man.

You admire career women and even praise them, but you are not ready to let your wife go. You see other women as better, but you are not ready to let her be herself in her career because she must serve "the master". Other men encourage their wives and help push them into greatness, but you won't set yours free. Your friends are men whose wives are either slaves or women with no vision, as long as they throw money at the woman, she should be happy. Odiegwu.

You started a big business for her and she couldn't run it. Well done sir. Did you try to find out what she loves doing? Why do you think that everyone is cut out for your buying and selling thing? You should let a woman have the final say when it comes to her vision, she's an adult like you.

You probably want her a full time housewife who has no life of her own, all because of your lack of self-confidence.
What you don't know is that when you place your woman very high, it's difficult for men to reach her. When you help her soar, not everything gets her attention. But when you shatter her dreams and keep her idle, she becomes vulnerable to anything. A good number of women are just living in the shadow of their master. They have so much in them for their world, but can't give any out because the "lord" must be obeyed. And you know the funny thing? It's very decent women who often go through this mess. Some even married as virgins but the cassanova they married won't let them be.

Oh Pharoah, let my sisters go! If you go on treating her the way you do because of fear, that which you fear most may come upon you.

Why Did He Abandon Me?

We are always quick to judge people for turning back on their spouse in hard times. The fact remains that only the two people in a relationship truly know what its all about. That man can go about complaining to those who care to listen.  He can shout it from the roof top that his wife left him for another man because he is broke. That woman can cry out blood just to tell you how mean her husband is and how he abandoned her at the hospital for another woman.

I know there are evil women and men. I know that there are many without conscience.  But I also know that there are many good men and women who did/do what they did/do because of what their spouse did to them.

Sir, your wife left you now that you are broke; what was your relationship with her like when you had it all? Were you busy enjoy yourself with your sin partners at the expense of your home? Were you not always insulting her and telling her how useless she was? Were you not constantly reminding her that she wouldn't amount to anything in life without you?

Madam, he left you at the hospital for another woman; are you sure that your reason for being in that hospital isn't why he abandoned you? You suffered with him when it was bad only for him to become a king and marry a new queen; are you sure you were not already separated and on your way out before you heard he's the next king? You married him when he had nothing and spent your hard-earned money on him. What kind of hell did you put him through while helping him to get back on his feet? Did you not constantly put him down and insult him before your fellow big girls?

Lesson: If your spouse will stand by and with you in your low moment, please treat him/her right when you are up there.  Many people, especially women, may not speak a word, but they are waiting and hoping to teach you some lessons someday. 

And you that is not a part of the relationship, be careful with your words. Things are not always what they seem to be. Ours is a society where people can swallow every rubbish for 20 years without complaining. That he or she never talked about it doesn't mean it never existed.

Reasons Why You Should Quit Pornography!

It's no longer news that a good number of married couples and individuals learnt about sex through pornography. When puberty gets hold of an innocent, naive child, the curiosity to know more about the erect and firm penis and the spouting of the breast pushes many to ask questions in this 21st century when sex education is gradually being accepted by all. But it used to be a taboo to talk about sex and our parents didn’t take that lightly as that child was expected to be thinking of how to graduate in flying colors. Although this is reduced, but we still have parents who are uninformed and when children find themselves with such parents,  they often resort to the Internet, romantic novels, and pornographic videos. 
Painfully the church shy away from talking about sex and that makes so many individuals to learn the act of sexual intimacy instead of understanding God's purpose for sex. In many churches, even couples who are engaged to be married shouldn’t discuss sex and sexuality. A good number of marriage counseling departments in our churches, sadly, are led by the wrong people.

Pornography has destroyed homes and has painted a wrong picture of sex to many individuals who feel that if they do not attain a particular standard, form, and performance as demonstrated by porn stars, their sex life is a failure and a mess. 
We have so many wrong information on sex which pornography has transmitted over the years and it is wise for anyone who is under the influence of pornography to understand that there is a great difference between pornography and sexual intimacy. 

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Pornography gives men the impression that if a lady is not of a particular shape or size or height, then having sex with her is not acceptable. It was pornography that taught us what figures and shapes are great for sex. How a woman with a big breast and hips will make you enjoy sex much more than a lady who has small hips and breast. 
It gave men the impression that it's only a big and long penis that can make a woman cry or yearn for more sex and this has pushed them into seeking ways to enhance the penis size so that they can impress the ladies. This, they do, at the expense of their health.

Pornography also gave women the impression that if a man’s penis is not up to six inches when erect and as hard as iroko wood, she won't be able to enjoy sex or reach orgasm or squirt like the porn stars do and because of that, they won't be comfortable with a man whose penis is of average size. 
But in reality, irrespective of the size, shape and the type of body an individual may have – tall or short, big or small, sex can be great and awesome if you can put your mind not on the size of your organ but on the size of your love and appreciation of your spouse. 

Perception
Men perceive sex as a competition where they spend little time in foreplay and almost all the time in spanking, banging, hitting, and smashing the vagina until the lady begins to cry or beg to take a break. 
They see it as a competition where the man must conquer his wife and make her vagina as hot as possible. 
Unfortunately, what many do not know is that such men are not making love to their spouse, they are repeating what they saw porn stars do forgetting that those porn stars have no regard for each other’s body. Porn stars are often under the influence of drugs, many of the videos that you depend on were edited and the number of minutes that a man may take to reach orgasm is quite different from what pornography will teach you which is, the longer the more pleasure. 
For women, they feel that if her husband doesn't last up to the minutes she watched, then he's “vegetable” and cannot satisfy her sexually. 
Pornography have made women to believe that if they don't squirt, reach orgasm, or moan like porn stars, the man isn't good enough for her and as such she cannot enjoy sex with him. 
In reality, you have to first connect with your partner, enjoy his company and personality, see him as an individual with so many attractive attributes which are beyond sex, encourage more foreplay with him because you adore each other’s body.  The macho can only give you sex, not lovemaking and no intimacy is built.

Performance
Pornography pushes men to compare their performance with those of porn stars and also compare their wives with porn stars and if for any reason she doesn't meet up, it means that she's a lazy lady and too dull for sex. 

Pornography pushes women into looking forward to orgasm instead of enjoying the intimacy of their partner. They have the impression that orgasm is the most important thing and that if he doesn't get it right the first time, then he will never get it right. 

Pornography pushes women to believe that quick ejaculation or premature ejaculation is a taboo that shouldn't be associated with a real man and when she experiences such, she will naturally nag or confront him on why he allowed the sperm to come too soon thereby crushing the self-esteem of the man and making him fearful of sex. A good number of men and women have been destroyed by spouses who believe the lie called pornography.

But one thing that pornography will never tell you is that every man at one point or the other experience quick ejaculation and it is, more often than not, normal. Some newly-weds get damaged on their wedding night because the sex they looked forward to came disappointing. What many don’t realize is that both excitement and stress can make a man not to perform in bed.

Pornography will never tell you that connecting with your partner and taking your time to appreciate the personality of your partner will enhance your sexual intimacy. 
Pornography will never be helpful when you indirectly compare your partner with a porn star and try to push your partner into replicating the same thing you saw on screen.

Pornography is a dangerous threat to your marriage and when you impose pornography on your partner, you may either get a porn star out of your partner or you may push your partner out of your life. 
What couples need to enhance their sexual intimacy is not a pornographic video; they need sex education videos or sex therapists. 

Please stop swallowing the distorted information on pornographic videos, take your time to communicate with your partner, and create that sexual intimacy that is unique to you and your partner. 
Focus more on connecting with your partner through communication, mutual, and selfless foreplay, and memorable intercourse. 
Do not be deceived by the gymnastics and the acrobatics of porn stars, most of them are under the influence of drugs and most of them have carried out some form of surgery to accommodate what you watch and practice in your marriage. 

It is not healthy and safe for your sexual life, you have a lifetime to grow with your partner, so allow your mind to explore ideas and ways of making love to your partner, keep your worries out of your bedroom and see every session as a learning process believing that it can only get better with time.

So make a decision today to keep pornographic videos out of your matrimonial bed. Don’t forget; When it comes to sex in marriage, whatever you sow at dawn is what you reap at dusk.

Barrenness: A Case for Artificial Insemination

We have a lot of waiting mothers among us. God has touched and answered so many of them. We have heard wonderful testimonies of God doing it after years of waiting. He is the God of all flesh; is there anything too hard for him? Nothing is too hard for God to do.

My problem is that we often don't tell ourselves the truth because of our orientation, we hide things from each other. You know that you got your baby through artificial insemination/IVF, but because of your mindset, you stand on the altar lying to us that God just did it. You tell us that you just woke up and even forgot you haven't seen your period for months and all of a sudden, you started feeling feverish... Why not tell us the process and let other waiting couples learn from you. Enough of these lies and from what I have seen so far, nobody will condemn you for doing that. Times are changing.

Yes, God being all in all, allowed it to come through for you. Some try several times and failed but He did it for you. He alone gave scientists the knowledge for this success in medicine. But your refusal to tell the actual story has kept a lot of ignorant women waiting.

http://www.amaraofficial.com/2015/10/to-every-childless-couple.html?m=1

I was impressed when I met a couple, who, even while thanking God for their two pregnancies, openly told us they all thank God for medical science as they got their babies via artificial insemination. The woman personally asked me to educate and encourage other women on this.

If after taking advantage of this breakthrough in science, you don't want other women like you to be happy, it's wickedness. This is why we have illegal baby factory businesses booming in Africa. Women now act pregnant and inject themselves to look pregnant only to go buy a baby and bring home. Even the husband is kept in the dark in some cases while in other cases, the couple hide it from the world. There is nothing wrong with adoption, you don't have to hide it. My uncle adopted three and he didn't hide it from villagers.

Spread the news please. I know that with about #200,000(two hundred thousand Naira), you can have your own baby if  God is on your side. You can contact me if you need the information of two licensed and affordable fertility doctors in Lagos and Abuja, Nigeria.

Go for artificial insemination or if older, IVF. Believe God in prayer, but have it in mind that He can decide to answer you via medicine.

NB: Please don't say what I haven't said.

Condition for Marriage: Pregnancy

Please  aunty help me, am in a confused  mind, I got married to this man  this, year September, when I met him he told everything, he was  open me, he told  he was once married  but he sent  his  wife packing  bcos she was not able to give him a child  n d problem is from the lady n dat  she is not humble  at all, she made him  rejected  all his family  members bcos of  this  lady, he even insulted his mother  bcos of dis lady. His mother  died bcos of heart break from him, so he told  me all this n  said to me if I get pregnant for him he will marry  me, which  he did these September, he has already  told  the lady parents  that  his longer  interested in the marriage n that they should forget about the bride price he paid, that if d lady sees husband  that she  should get married, him too Wil do otherwise . But my problem  is  whether I did d right thing by marrying him. We re happy together  n his brothers  n sisters  appreciate  me n approve of the marriage. I told  my friend  n she said  if he has sent her packing traditionally that I am free to  marry  him. Mind you he has  sent her packing bf I met him. Was I right to have  married  him.

Dear Young Woman,
Don't you think you are late in seeking counsel? You should have asked this question before the celebration. Nothing will change if I tell you the truth. But, I am going to speak this truth, not because of you and not for you. This counsel I am about to give is for those who may come back in future with your kind of question. If you think you have made a mistake, the fact is that it's too late to make amends and so the best you can do for yourself is to accept your situation and make your marriage work. Regrets won't do any good at this stage. 

Now, I want to make it plain that no man who loves a woman gives pregnancy as condition for marriage. No man who has regard for womanhood will ever open his mouth, the mouth he used to suck the breasts of a woman, and vomit such. Don't tell me our forefathers did that. Our forefathers saw women as slaves and mere properties. If all he wants from you is a child, what makes you think he won't face his life after getting that child from you? What makes you think he won't send you packing as well if anything happens to that child? What makes you think another girl with very low self-esteem will not be picked up tomorrow? 

I saw your picture and if that is you, you are too young to be this desperate. A man sent his wife away because she couldn't give him a child and so you, the baby-making factory took her place. Who told you her character was bad? What if she was hated by the family because she couldn't give them a child? What a shame. Did you for once think of life after that baby? I wish you well my dear. But what if God decides to show Himself God? This same man has not even gone back to collect bride price and you think that the first wife is still not the wife? If he married her in church or court, did he show you any paper for the final dissolution of their marriage?

It's sad, very sad, how some of us bring disgrace to womanhood. We are trying to be seen and treated as human beings, but people like you are the reason why some men see women as their play thing. Where is your self-esteem?

Like I said earlier, it's too late for you to seek counsel. According to you, the wedding took place in September. I wish you well and a big congratulations from me. I don't think you should be seeking this counsel. I believe there's something pushing you to seek my advice but whatever it is, my advice is this: Congratulations! You're in it, enjoy it and make it work. Good luck 

For others who are not yet into this, take my counsel and please talk to yourself. Desperation kills.

Abused by My Father

Dear Amara,
          It's a pleasure writing you. My story is a long one. I'm not sure I could find words to really express my thoughts. I seek to be understood, to know if there's someone out there who shares my thoughts or at least verify that I'm not going crazy. Have you ever felt like you can't think anymore 'cause it seems like your memory is full?
          I come from a broken home. I could also describe it as dysfunctional. All I remember was my dad hitting my mum, she always running off until she finally left when I was still a kid. I was broken,full of anger towards her. I forgave her years later for running off when I got to know about God's love. But growing up with my dad was hell psychologically. Maybe to him,his intentions were good,but to me, he battered my psyche. I'm short of words to describe the frustration. He was so overbearing, even up till date. He did something to me before his little altar he uses to worship when I was little,I don't even understand but still remember. He's not a christian. Even when I got into the university, he still controlled my movements threatening me always that if I dare leave the school premises,he'll know as he has people monitoring me. It's so bad that I feel he enjoys it when the whole world sees something wrong with me. In my final year,back in school then, I struggled financially I had to get a little job. He told my entire family that he gave me a big sum of money for my project and still I was ungrateful. I tell you they criticised me without even hearing the truth. And I wondered,what kind of father would do this? There was a time he flared when he saw me always reading the Word of God asking me if they were my books (even as an adult). Whenever I was on holiday, I couldn't go out. Even to buy something on the street,he would question my movement. My self esteem is battered,ma. I only beg God till date to restore me. Sometimes I feel I'm living a life without direction. People oppress me 'cause I find it hard to verbally express myself. That's why i love writing till date. I always kept a journal then,at least to keep my mind sane. He never allowed me to learn to make decisions for myself.
        Now today when I try to live my life the way I know brings me happiness and freedom, I am termed a rebel and ingrate. My emotional trauma pushed me to a wrong man because I sought attention and love. So I have a daughter and I'm working. My dad once told me that he'll be the one to tell me what to do with my salary. Even presently,he's angry saying that my first salary should have been for him, forgetting I have a daughter to take care of and I just got this job and haven't settled yet. The pressure on me is much spiritually,mentally and financially. He blackmails me psychologically with the formal education he gave me. I love him still and  would forgive him over and over again but I just need him to stop! I live in a different state from him but he still frustrates me over the phone.
         I want peace. I want a happy home with a man who truly loves me and my daughter. I want my daughter to have the good things my parents never gave me. I want to heal...but now it's like my wound is trying to heal and there's someone trying to cut me open again. I want my self esteem back! I want to be understood. I have too many fears...but I'm tired of living that kind of life. I so much desire a settled life and home which I know only God can give me,but it gives me peace to share my thoughts with someone. Thank you for reading.

My Dear,
I understand, maybe partially, how you feel. You have been through so much psychologically right from childhood. Your father was and is being used by the devil to destroy you.

Thank God you have forgiven your mom. You saw the beatings, I'm sure no sane woman would want to abandon her child. I believe she did what was best at that point. Would you have loved to grow up with the story of your mom being killed by your father? It would have done more damage to your life. Thank you for forgiving your mom. You have to get closer to her.

Hear this: Life is not about what happens to us; it's more about how we react to whatever comes our way. Life is about your attitude towards what happened to you. You must have heard part of my story. I was abused, not just physically, emotionally too. For fourteen years, I was messed up and half-dead. But I came out of it and instead of allowing it to keep me down; instead of allowing the opinions of mere mortals to keep me down, I trusted on God's grace and strength. I decided to turn my mess into a message. I decided to allow God heal and use me to heal other broken and messed up things. You know what? God loves broken and messed up things because He is that perfect Potter. You should see this

http://www.amaraofficial.com/2015/06/confused-read-this.html

This is the spirit I want you to ask for. Words are powerful my dear. I got to that point in my life where I could not look at people during conversation because I was made to believe I was the most useless human alive. I am here today talking, writing, and speaking to millions of people. Only you can stop you. Your father can only do what he knows how to do. Like you said, he does not fear God. What makes you think he will be nice to you? All you owe him is prayer. Pray for your dad, pray for salvation of his soul. But for now, relate with him from a distance.
You should read this http://www.amaraofficial.com/2015/06/confused-read-this.html

Baby girl, you are the one with the power here. You have left home to pursue your career; thank God for that. Many are going through similar or worse things and they can't find a way to leave home. Thank God you left home, not to live in a brothel; you left home to work and take care of your baby.

Now, I want you to ask God to help you and give you the grace to be calm and smile wgenever you hear and see all the negative things he does to you. This is one way to get the devil mad! I am not yet there, but I started praying for that grace to ignore and laugh at the devil and his cohorts.

I want you to go now, stand in front if your mirror. Look at yourself and speak these words to your life
I am beautiful
I am blessed
I am gifted
I am the best
I am loved
I am a gift to my generation
I am God's masterpiece
I am a great vessel of honor
I am unstoppable
I live beyond curses
I live beyond humiliation
I walk in divine authority
Destinies are tied to me and so I must deliver to the glory of God
I shall speak and bring healing to other lives

Speak these words to yourself every morning and night. Write and place it in front of your office table, in your bathroom, kitchen, bedroom... There is power in spoken words and because you fear the Lord, He shall bring it to pass.

Fear not daughter of Zion. Like my Lord, Jesus Christ,  I say, Talitha Cumi...Daughter, Arise!
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You're a star. You are a great vessel that God will use to bring revival and restoration to other abused women out there. You must not fail God. Now, begin this journey in Christ.

I love you and I will be your friend henceforth. Send me your number and together, we shall do great things for heaven and for humanity.

Parents, you've seen the effect of negative words on your children. Many are prostitutes today; many are living without purpose; many are in the wrong relationship just because they are looking for that love you failed to give them. Let us know that money can never take the place of relationship with our children especially before they become teenagers. Bond with them and always speak life into them.