How do I unload these Garbage in my Life?

Good evening Aunty Amara, how are you doing and how is your family? 

I will be needing advice on some cases because I don't want to go into new year with some stuffs

1. When my husband and I was dating, he would bath three to five times a day during summer, while winter is two times a day, now he bath only two times in a week.

2. He was the most gentle and calmest person I have been with, truthful, faithful and kind to everyone but now he has become an aggressive, rude liar, when given cash to do something he would not do it but use the money and when asked, he will start yelling. 

I'm Losing my Mind: He doesn't Allow me to do Anything!

I'm 28 years and I've been married for two years now, still trying to conceive (TTC). I was working before I got married, and eight months after our wedding my husband asked me to resign and relocate cos we weren't in the same state, but before I resigned I told him I wouldn't want to be idle when I resign which he agreed. 

I am Lonely in my Marriage:No Affection, No Attention!

Good morning everyone, please I will like you guys to advice me like you would advice your own sister...

I and my husband are from Nigeria but we reside in South Africa.. We dated for few months before he came to Nigeria to marry me and made papers for me to join him in S.A..

We live in a 2-bedroom apartment here but we only occupied one because one of my husband's friend that is a divorcee stays in the other room, they pay the house rent together. 

I have two kids already, I have told my husband to look for another apartment at least so that we can have our privacy as husband and wife, he refused saying he doesn't have money.. 

I Feel like Calling off the Marriage! Help me!

Good afternoon ma, thanks for this platform. Please this is really urgent ma, please help me post I beg you. 

Ma, I couldn't sleep all night, I am planning my marriage(trad) and boo isn't in Nigeria. When they came for introduction they had a heated argument with my family over beer because they came with malt only, I had to call my older cousins and gave them money for drinks for peace to reign. 

My Girlfriend Doesn't Love me Anymore.

Ma, I discovered my girlfriend doesn't love me again. There's this guy that has been disturbing her, I embarrassed courtesy by going through her phone and I discovered she's responding very well to the guy. She has even given him a pet name, though the guy is residing in another state. When she was telling me about the guy, she said she met him on transit from the east.

Psychologically Unstable: How Do I Move on Without Him?

Aunty Amara, good morning. I'm a big fan of your page, please I need help.

I'm literally going crazy.

I met this guy on Facebook in 2015 ending... He finished from the secondary school I did JSS1-3. He's quite older than I am, like say I'm 21 now and he's 36. He's actually a nice, loving and caring guy. I initially didn't want to give my all In since it was just a Facebook friend. (I wasn't in the country as of then) and he called everyday and night.. That kind of persistency, I gave in about five months later... I fell madly in love with this guy despite the distance, he was on and serious for marriage and I was just 17+ and in medical school, he said he was going to wait,... 

Now the major problem, I'm Yoruba while he's Igbo. I'm Redeemed and he's Catholic... 

Heartbroken: Never Loved a Lady That Much.

Thanks much for your advise the other time...I really appreciate. 

You see, that lady I told you about eventually said YES and we both started a relationship afterwards as we progress, I did all I could to make her happy, care and lots more....but the relationship was one sided, I was the one doing everything to make it work but she wasn't sure of we both being together. She asked me to give her time for her to grow in love...which I agreed. Many a time, she will blow cold, I'II ask her if there was any problem or is there anything I did wrong or not doing right....she will reply me that she wasn't convinced yet and haven't gotten a revelation from God, as a result she is not yet opened.

After Six years of Marriage, He Sent me Packing!

Good evening ma. I'm the lady that sent you a message on the 20th of Feb 2016 concerning my marriage( me believing God for the fruit of the womb). 

Ma, I've been told there's fibroid that needs to be removed, but my husband refused saying I have marine spirit because his family said so.

Marriage: Never a Barrier to a Fulfilled Life

Marriage is a beautiful, in fact, the most beautiful experience after salvation of ones soul from eternal damnation. It’s beautiful when you meet someone who supports you, believes in you, and shares values with you, it feels absolutely great. The blessings of having a wonderful spouse in your life is endless and anyone who desires a happy marriage desires something glorious and wonderful.

However, there has been an increase in desperation, panic, fear, and anxiety just because we have to get married by all means. The society, especially Africa, isn’t helping issues at all.

Sometimes we see those subtle signs, warnings, negative vibes, and red flags indicating possible catastrophe in getting married to that person, but we let societal pressure and lust force us into it. Some have paused their career, ambition, dream, vision, and their life simply because they are not married or they don't have a man/woman to call their own. You sacrifice everything, lose your common sense,

Joblessness and Marriage

Good evening aunt Amara, how does one choose between happiness and their future..
I met this gentleman three years ago. God, he is such a God fearing man with everything I want and prayed for in a man.. I believe that he is a blessing from God.. We have been courting all these years, he quit his job and went full time in ministry

Broken: Three Years of Waiting and Investing in Him Wasted!

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Good day Aunty Amara, please help me, I am broken. I met a guy three years ago, he already had a first degree, but was into another degree in law. I told him I could not wait because I was 29 years old then, but he pleaded with me and even sent people to me to plead on his behalf. 

How Do I Recover my Money from Him?

Good evening ma, please help a broken and disappointed soul. I type with tears.

I am 38 years old, I met him last year July online. He talked of marriage and I told him let us see each other first.

Both of us are from Anambra, also reside in Port Harcourt, same age. So, we met at Onitsha when I visited my brother's family, and we liked each other.

Next, he came to my brother's house and declared his intention, (my dad is late). We started planning of going to village to collect list. Aunty, I love this guy with everything in me. He told me he got job with Moscow company In Port Harcourt.

I'm Heartbroken and Confused; Help Me!

Dear sister Amara, thanks for doing a great job, please I'll like to seek for your advice. 

There's this guy I dated back in 2013, we loved each other so much but we broke up because he's a military personnel and my parents felt they usually don't have time for their wives, so I got married in 2015 and left the abusive marriage in 2017.

Somehow fate brought us back with the military guy, and I was asking why he hasn't gotten married after our break-up but his excuse was that he hasn't gotten someone befitting to be called a wife.